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Great Oral Sex On Vacation. Or at Home.
Sep
Recently a young wife emailed me, asking for tips on giving great oral sex when she and her husband were on an upcoming vacation.
Kudos to her for wanting to bring her husband this pleasure and for reaching out to ask for tips on how to make it even better!
So below are 5 tips on giving great oral sex to your husband on vacation (Or at home. Seriously, why would anyone limit this pleasure to a hotel room?!):
1 Ask him what feels good.
This seems like a simple one, right? Well, you wouldn’t believe the number of women who won’t offer oral sex to their husbands because they are afraid they won’t do it “right.”
I’m not going to say there aren’t some techniques that make it more enjoyable, but trust me on this — you can’t really go “wrong” if you show effort and enthusiasm.
So my suggestion is try different things and ask him for feedback. Guys, please give feedback. If ever there was a skill perfected through trial and error and lots of practice, this is definitely one!
2 Don’t just use your mouth.
Somewhere along the way, we totally got the idea that oral sex is only about the mouth. Not the case, ladies.
I would be willing to bet my very last dollar that if you also make good use of your hands and breasts, you will discover that most phenomenal oral sex for your husband is rarely just oral. His penis is not particularly finicky in the attention it craves.
If your husband is like most husbands, he wants his wife to touch him with her entire body. This is as true during oral sex as it is during intercourse.
3 Speaking of your hand…
Okay, if you use your hand and mouth at the same time, this tends to offer the right amount of pressure around his penis in a rhythmic and wet motion that is irresistible.
Ask him to give you a good sense if more or less firmness in your grip is what he needs. As your hand slides up his penis, wrap it up over the top and then back down as your mouth comes over the head of his penis. Just an idea.
4 Do it because you like bringing him pleasure.
I hear from wives who think oral sex is disgusting, and that makes me a little bit sad. Now, don’t get me wrong. I know that some women have really strong gag reflexes and there are aspects of oral sex that take some getting used to.
If you as a wife are having a hard time with oral sex, I encourage you to simply reframe your perspective on it.
This is the man you married and with whom God desires you enjoy an exclusive sexual relationship. Nowhere in the Bible do we see that oral sex between a husband and wife is forbidden (if anything, we see scriptures in Song of Solomon that would indicate oral sex is a good and holy thing in matrimony).
Guys, be sensitive about what will make the experience easier for her. Shower before you come to bed. Cleanliness can go a long way in making oral sex enjoyable (for both a husband and a wife, by the way).
If she can’t swallow, don’t make this a deal breaker. While I know many guys have said that their wife swallowing is a big turn on and makes them feel valued and loved, I also know that for some women, it’s just not possible.
Also, as a husband, you can’t push yourself into her mouth, as tempting as that may be because everything is feeling so good right in that moment.
You really need to let her drive this experience. Offer feedback and affirm her when she’s getting it right. If you can’t talk in that moment, any happy expression of ecstasy will do.
I mean, don’t wake the neighbors or small children down the hall, but you get the idea.
5 Draw the experience out.
Oral sex leaves a lot of room for tantalizing creativity. There is so much freedom in being able to bring him to the edge and back down a bit and then bring him to the edge again.
The more confident you grow in using your entire body, particularly your hands, mouth and breasts on his penis, the more exciting it will be for him.
And don’t forget that most guys are incredibly visual when it comes to sexual stimulation. It will probably be a big turn on for him if he can watch you pleasure him orally. You don’t need the overhead light on, but maybe a closet light or some candlelight or a nightstand lamp? (Or if you are camping, maybe a well-placed flashlight?!)
So, all the above being said, are you willing to get outside your comfort zone and make the next romantic getaway more memorable with some awesome oral sex?
(Word to the wise, you don’t need to wait for the vacation. You could start tonight).
I’ve written about oral sex before and I imagine some of the above tips show up in the below posts, but there might be another gem or two. Plus I’ve given you links to some other bloggers’ posts.
How to Give Your Husband Amazing Oral Sex
3 Secrets to Amazing Oral Sex
Some Thoughts on Oral Sex
Is It Reasonable to Say “No” to Oral Sex?
Enough With the Double Standards Regarding Oral Sex
An Important Follow Up to the Oral Sex Post
Oral Sex: How To
Oral Sex: Better to Give and Receive, Volume 1
Oral Sex: Better to Give and Receive, Part Deux
Oral Sex: Survey Says…
Oral Sex
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I will be happy if my wife was as invested in pleasing me orally as I was her. She thinks giving me a blowjob is a waste of time. I asked my wife to read this blog with me and she paid it no attention. Sometimes unfortunately it’s probably easier to just get blowjobs from someone else or just masturbate and give up on getting a woman to do something she really doesn’t want to do.
I was totally blown away (no pun intended with the subject matter of this post) when my husband told me yesterday he was sooooo glad he had a wife willing to give him oral. He mentioned to me during love play that he has male coworkers who complain that their wives won’t give them oral and he expressed to me that he was so thrilled to have a wife willing to please him this way. It felt a little validating. In the past and sometimes still in the present I have felt a lot of resentment and bitterness due to inequality in the bedroom or when it comes to bedroom issues. A lot of times I honestly feel I give my 110% to please him, but I don’t feel he does the same to reciprocate and I have felt he’s been a selfish man and in the past have felt a little vulnerable to having an affair due to his selfishness, but I have been in that shoe myself due to his past affair and I honestly desire to stay faithful and true to him even though he had a fall some years back. God has answered many prayers and has glued us back together and I praise Him. I just really hoped that intimacy would be more satisfying for BOTH of us this many years post affair. But I have gotten off on a tangent here and I must apologize for that but hopefully anyone struggling with this now, there is hope that God can heal your marriage and both of you. I just feel that if a man wants oral sex, he should also be willing to give, not only receive. However, I have never, ever asked him because of other intimate issues that he is not comfortable with and I don’t know why he’s not comfortable with touching my female parts. He feels that touching my parts below the waist is gross or dirty but I know that my body is not gross or dirty. He is just very uncomfortable with some things I cannot fathom or understand why he is so traumatized about touching the clitoris. I just keep praying for God to help him with whatever issues are blocking him from touching me and for patience and help so as to not have the resentful feelings or bitterness over inequality in the bedroom, spending more time meeting his needs and making sure he’s a satisfied man vs feeling unsatisfied in this area over the years from feeling neglected by my husband and feeling like we don’t know or don’t do things together to see what takes me over the edge. I have communicated to him what I need to have a climax, but he is unwilling to do it and all I am asking is for some manual stimulation. I don’t know why he hates the thought.
Me and my wife has had oral between us..then she used her hands and several times my wife used her breast ….she doesn’t mind useing her breast and hands. .but in her mouth she. gags ….
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Giving advice to couples to enjoy there intimate sex lives is so needed in a perverted world. We are a couple with a nifty secret.” We love oral sex best after 30+ years. I am a naughty wife with a happy husband! As a wife I love his response. It gets messy but it’s fun?
In my situation my wife was very willing to give oral before we got married. She said she loved it and it turned her on so much to please me. Now we’ve been married for 3 years and we only have sex once a month max, with oral or anything besides intercourse off the menu. She gives no reason anymore. I shower before bed, I trim, I do everything I used to and everything she asked me to but she refuses. She makes comments like “should I get my violin?” “Why don’t you just go masturbate?” I stopped masturbating because it makes me feel even worse. I feel hopeless and bamboozled. I feel like she just wanted to get married and now who cares about the husband’s needs. I don’t believe not divorce but I don’t believe in being miserable either.
Oh my goodness. Your blogs have helped me so much learn about the freedom of the marriage bed in the Christian life. Last night I was giving my husband oral and he commented that he doesn’t know who taught me but he was glad they did. This is one of the few comments he’s ever made, we’ve been married less than a month but wow… His vocalizing his pleasure did wonders. Even afterwards when we were settling in for the night he commented again about it. I confessed that I didn’t have a teacher, but read some great blogs that has helped me a lot. It opened a great door for us to talk about things we haven’t discussed before, especially about sexual insecurities. I must say it made me proud. Don’t quit doing what you’re doing!
Just read what I wrote nearly 3 years back. I ended with it gets messy but it’s fun??? yes we are getting older yes we are very and maybe even more uninhibited then 3 years ago. We do have some uniqueness. Both are very very sexually charged. I believe we are some what the cause of never getting enough sex because we tease each other along. I’m his queen and my man is my manly man that loves anything sexual. So keep the word out “if you practice and learn to laugh at our selves when its not quite working the way we planed our event? So what All I need to do when something new doesn’t work is allow him to enjoy giving me an oral orgasm and work him over till t gets MESSY????
She wrote that?♂️On the topic of uninhibited. We talked about this topic together. Why are we today so uninhibited and back 30 years ago we were very inhibited?? We realize we have two boxes shameful sex and Godly sex. Too many couples fill the wrong box. Years ago we put good stuff in the Shame box that actually belonged in the God box. We also tried putting Shame stuff in the God box. So what devides the two. The sin box has the following. Any sexual thought of doing it with an other person other then your spouse. Any selfish though of getting your spouse to do something sexual that would result in a guilty conscience. Any action that would cause a someone else to sin. All other acts or thoughts belong in the fun sensual Godly sex box. Do we place the wrong item in the wrong box even today? Yes sometimes. Sex is the devils favorate weapon so as the bible says not a hint of sexual immorality. So the question is do you know how to file your sex drive box with nice good stuff that God would enjoy watching.
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And strong Communities
Our churches are grow through you lesson we have strong families that make strong church.
If people use sex in the right way marriage become strong.