Okay, I’m not gonna sugarcoat it.
I am a 40-something (almost 50-something) housewife who probably lives a life that looks similar to yours.
I mean, what with all the laundry and messy countertops and relentless calendars and “I need a piece of white poster board for my science project tomorrow” and sloppy dog paws and “do we really want to host Easter brunch” and…
Well. You get the point.
But as I have often said, extraordinary sex happens in the ordinary. So that’s what we have to figure out — how to nurture authentic intimacy amidst the tedious and cumbersome slosh through this thing called life!
Here are 3 surprisingly easy sex moves that just may wow your husband tonight (if you give them a try!):
1. Genuinely Show Up
One of the biggest complaints I hear from husbands is that their wife offers her body, but not her heart and soul. Don’t just go through the motions.
Yes, I know you know what it takes to get him to climax, maybe even quickly. But what most husbands want is a wife who wants to be there — who wants to connect with him in that profound way that he can’t get from anyone else.
2. Make it About Him
Personally I think this is quite fun every now and then. Take your time arousing him.
Have him lay back and be the recipient of all you have to offer. God has given you great tools, so to speak — assets for turning on the man you met at the end of that aisle and pledged your life and heart to.
A great sexual position is you on top. It gives him great visuals and access to your body, and it simultaneously lets you control the rate and rhythm of movement on your clitoris. Win win. High fives all around.
For more reading on making it about him, check out my post 3 Reasons It’s Sexy to Undress for Your Husband.
3. Make it About You Too
If your husband is like most guys, he is completely enthralled with his wife having an orgasm. Gals, don’t downplay the importance of your sexual pleasure. You’re not doing anyone any favors by doing that.
When you minimize the importance of your orgasm, you are robbing yourself and your husband of the mystery and power of God-designed sexual climax. If you have trouble having an orgasm, don’t give up. Consider the many great tips on my Orgasm Page.
The above three moves aren’t the ones that scream at us from the covers of Cosmopolitan. But I have come to believe that the above are delightfully foundational to passionate sex in marriage. What do you think?
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