Who knows why God designed men and women the way He did.
If we were to stand back purely from a logical standpoint, it all seems quite baffling. I mean, seriously. Think about the layout here…
A woman’s urinary system is located near her sexual pleasure system. A man’s urinary system and sexual pleasure system are in the same location.
The clitoris serves no other purpose than sexual pleasure in a woman. The head of a man’s penis is a primary source of sexual pleasure for him, but it also has the purpose of allowing urine to leave his body.
Add to this that sexual arousal and response are clearly not limited to the genitals and clearly not only a physical experience, and we start to see how wildly mysterious all of this is.
There’s just a lot going on, right? God avidly values sexual pleasure for both a husband and a wife, but He didn’t use identical blueprints to orchestrate that. (I know. I know. He didn’t use blueprints. He was likely creating on the fly, but you get what I’m saying.)
What some people find most inhibiting about sex is the messiness and multi-sensory aspect. The sights, the smells, the tastes. To become comfortable with sex, we have to move beyond thinking of the genitals as gross or unattractive.
I’m not saying they are gross and unattractive—I’m saying that is the perception some people have of them, which becomes a huge roadblock to embracing sex as good. Fortunately, so many people do get past that roadblock!
And people who become enthusiastic about sex grow to see the genitals not just as acceptable or tolerable, but as erotic. Stunning. Worthy of pursuit in a marriage.
Yes, if we were to stand back purely from a logical standpoint, it all seems quite baffling. But in the covenant of marriage, God created sexual oneness and passion to be way more than logical endeavors.
There is mystery. There is indescribable emotion. There is joy and pleasure. It is a sensory frenzy in the very best way.
We have a wildly mysterious sexual God. We may not logically fathom what God was up to when He designed men and women the way He did. But oh how grateful and in awe we still can be.
We don’t need to understand all the intricacies of His design to appreciate it. We have such a wildly mysterious sexual God.
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