A good friend and I were chatting about sex, because she’s the kind of friend who likes to talk about that sort of thing.
(Imagine that. Me with friends who are open to discussing sex. I know. It’s crazy.)
Anyway, we both agreed we each find it incredibly arousing to be seductively undressed by our spouse. You know, drawn out and tantalizing and teasing, but in a good way that builds the intensity and anticipation of making love.
We both have husbands, though, who don’t always see the allure of this (neither doing the undressing nor being undressed). It’s not that they are never game for it, but it doesn’t seem to occur to them how hot this can really be on a more regular basis.
So let me ask you.
Does it excite you to have your spouse undress you? Does it excite you to undress your spouse?
If you and your spouse have never undressed each other as part of your sexual intimacy, give it a try. Bringing this into your intimacy can lower inhibitions and raise your sexual confidence.
3 Benefits of Undressing Each Other:
1. It makes for good foreplay
There is not always time or energy for a lot of foreplay, but what a difference foreplay can make, right? I think sexual arousal is such an interesting experience, and foreplay can be so instrumental in heightening that arousal.
I love foreplay. Love. It! Generally speaking, the more foreplay, the better the sex. When spouses occasionally include undressing each other in their foreplay, it can intensify the arousal. And who doesn’t want more intense sexual arousal?
2. It raises our trust level
Undressing someone is incredibly personal and intimate. It literally and figuratively allows our spouse to have control over revealing us. That is something that typically we control ourselves.
When a husband and wife undress each other in the privacy of their sexual intimacy, it raises the trust level between them. I know that many couples wouldn’t identify it as such, but I think that’s part of what is happening in those sacred moments.
Deeper trust lends itself well to more passionate and uninhibited sex.
3. It teaches us more about touch
Too many couples miss out on a variety of touch in their lovemaking simply because they cut to the chase too quickly. When you undress your spouse slowly, you get to touch all areas of their body — maybe areas that neither of you even suspected were arousing.
There’s just something about a mix of light and firm touches with our hands (and our mouths, if we want to be completely honest), that stirs so much sexual awakening and excitement.
So word to the wise on this, when you undress your spouse, take your time. Your goal isn’t simply to get them naked. Your goal is to have them so aroused by the time they are naked that making love becomes downright irresistible.
Some other posts that may be helpful in exploring this more are 3 Reasons It’s Sexy to Undress for Your Husband and all the posts on body image that I have at this link.
And don’t miss these posts:
Imprisoned by Your Sexual Inhibitions? Want to Break Free?
3 Ways to Get Rid of Your Sexual Inhibitions
Naked. And Not Afraid.
What else would you say about the effect undressing each other has on making love?
For more reading, cruise through my list of past posts, as well as my page with a bunch of posts on orgasm.
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