What Can You Learn From Other Marriages?

Posted on Friday, April 6th, 2012

One of my regular gigs is speaking on abstinence to teenagers.

I always ask the teens, “How many of you have seen bad marriages?”

Nearly all the hands go up.

Then I ask, “How many of you have seen good marriages?”

3 Ways to Improve Your Boring Sex Life

Posted on Thursday, March 29th, 2012

Okay, I should start by saying I’m not too crazy about the phrase “sex life” …

…because really, don’t we just have one life with a lot of moving parts?

I’m a woman, so I don’t have all those little boxes in my head where I can compartmentalize the intricate details of my life. To me, everything is connected, and the phrase “sex life” sounds like it is camping out in its own little box. Which it isn’t.

Sex: It’s Not Just Emotional

Posted on Sunday, March 18th, 2012

That headline strikes you as odd, doesn’t it?

Well, I was on my fellow blogger Paul Byerly’s site and came across his very insightful post Sex: It’s Not Just Physical.

What a Shark Taught Me About Sex

Posted on Saturday, January 7th, 2012

I’m talking about a literal shark.

For those of you who don’t know much about Omaha except that it is in the middle of the country and it has hosted the Men’s College World Series for more than 50 years, you may be surprised to hear that we have one of the best zoos in the country.

Is It Reasonable to Say “No” to Oral Sex?

Posted on Saturday, December 31st, 2011

Years ago, a friend and I were talking in general about sex. In the course of our conversation, the topic of oral sex came up.

I casually mentioned, “What’s not to like about oral sex?”

“Giving or receiving?” she asked.

Lack of Interest in Sex? What’s the Toll on Your Marriage?

Posted on Thursday, December 29th, 2011

So I just finished reading a submission to the syndicated advice column that appears in our local paper.

Yeah, I read those. It seems like at least a couple times a week they have to do with sex, so obviously I’m interested. Go figure.

Anyway, this particular one was written by a wife who had lost all interest in sex and was tired of going through the motions. She was resigned that her lack of interest was merely the natural course of nature in a woman’s body.

Birth Control. Sheila Gregoire. And a Conversation You Don’t Want to Miss.

Posted on Wednesday, November 9th, 2011

Lately I’ve been a little self-absorbed.

See, I have a broken finger (long story) with some slight tendon damage thrown in as well.

Saving grace is it is on my non-dominant hand. Still annoying though.

See what I mean? I’m self-absorbed.

So imagine my relief when I still managed to stumble upon this phenomenal conversation Sheila Gregoire generated on her blog about birth control.

Happy Husbands Come From Wives Who Put Out

Posted on Thursday, October 13th, 2011

What?!

I didn’t just write that in the headline, did I?

Do happy husbands come from wives who put out?

“Whoa, Nellie.” I can feel the glares, especially from some of you wives reading this. But please don’t board the “I’m so offended” train just yet.

Giving My Body to My Wife — One Husband’s Story

Posted on Friday, October 7th, 2011

Not long ago, I asked for readers’ stories with regard to struggles in sexual intimacy and how couples have found a path to healing.

Today’s story comes from a reader named Bob. I appreciate his vulnerability and transparency. It takes courage to share so openly. With that in mind, please read with a compassionate heart. Possibly you’ll see glimpses of your own marriage in his story.

Be sure to read all the way through, as Bob shares a powerful declaration he sent to his wife.

Little Irritations are Killing Your Sex Life

Posted on Wednesday, October 5th, 2011

So I was cruising through my favorite bloggers and came across this post by Lori Byerly titled Irritations and Peeves with Collars.

Fabulous post by the way.