I had the opportunity to catch up with a friend I hadn’t seen in awhile.
She knows me incredibly well, and we have the kind of friendship where we can talk vulnerably about everything—including sex.
Before long, we found ourselves laughing about breasts. We were laughing about being middle-aged women who no longer have the firm breasts of a twentysomething.
We comically talked about how certain positions during sex display our breasts better than other positions.
Insert lots more laughter here. Gut-level laughing. And a few animated gestures of us trying to simulate what our breasts probably were like when we were 20.
These are the sorts of things you don’t think about when you are 20.
There aren’t too many 20-year-olds out there thinking, “I better enjoy the perkiness of these things while I can. Once I add some breastfeeding and two or three decades of time to my resume, who knows what’s going to happen to them?!!”
They are heading south, honey. They are heading south. Unless, of course, you are lying on your back. And then they are headed east and west.
Just keeping it real.
It’s good to have a sense of humor about these things. Otherwise, we’d drown in a pit of body image angst. And what good would that do us? Not one iota of good. Wouldn’t be good for our overall sense of wellbeing or for sex in our marriage.
Now hear me on this…I know there is value in health and doing what we can to take care of our bodies. I’m all for that. But there also is a lot to be said for enjoying sex to the fullest with the body you have, saggy boobs and all.
It’s not what they look like as much as it is what you do with them. And there is a lot you can do with them during sex!
Most husbands aren’t too hung up on what their wife’s breasts look like. I hear from many husbands, though, who long for their wife to be sexually confident—that she would not be shy about sharing her body fully with him and fueling passion and sexual desire. A wife’s breasts aren’t just erotic for him; they can be quite the erogenous zone for her, too!
It sure felt good to laugh with my friend. Every woman needs a friend or two who will sit in the driveway with you, drink a beer, and laugh about no longer having the firm perky breasts of a 20-year-old. Having a good sense of humor helps when talking about breasts.
If you struggle with body image, I highly encourage you to check out all the scrumptious posts I have on my Body Image Page. Lots of good stuff out there, gals!
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