I am fascinated when a post is widely received well, but then some people get vehemently angry about the post at the same time.
Such is the case with my post Your Teens Can Hear You Having Sex? Why That May be a Good Thing.
Not that I want to over-explain myself, but I do recognize that some people were offended by the post. Not sure if they will read this follow-up, but hey, anything is worth a shot, right? I thought I would clarify a few things.
I wrote the post with a bit of humor, and I think most readers recognized that. If you were offended, I apologize and I encourage you to re-read it with a bit more objectivity and through a lens that the post was meant to be somewhat humorous.
I wasn’t saying that parents should flaunt their sexual intimacy or neglect their kids, all in an effort to just sneak away and get crazy loud beneath the sheets.
The narrative I was trying to get across is that in too many homes, there is not a healthy attitude about sex in marriage. This lack of a healthy perspective about sex is actually what causes more harm.
I also was striving to say that a husband and wife enjoying sex in their marriage should be the normal rather than treating sex like a shameful obligatory “oh, we never do that” sort of thing. When all is said and done, we should be aiming to send the message that healthy sexual intimacy is vital to a healthy marriage.
And certainly if you read it and concluded I was saying it is okay to traumatize your kids… that was not my heart intent. Should parents be discreet about their sexual intimacy? Yes. Do they need to maintain privacy and not let their kids see them having sex? Yes. And should they make sure young children are not left unattended and unsafe? Yes.
Let’s think of how we can help young people grow up to be adults who see sex as something holy and worthy of honor and pursuit in the covenant of marriage. One of the best ways we can do that is to speak favorably of it and not shy away from the fact that we enjoy it in our own marriage.
Not sure if any of this will calm the haters, but I’m giving it my best attempt. I definitely respect people don’t always agree with me, and I do my best to approve the comments of people who don’t agree (unless they are full of profanity, at which point I think, what’s the point?)
Peace to all.
Below are some posts I have written about talking to your kids about sex. They are full of helpful tips…
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