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Little Acts of Kindness Can Be Quite Sexy
Nov
Recently one morning after dropping our son at school, I decided to run a few errands. I had originally told my husband I would be home after the morning carpool, but figured I’d get those errands in while I could.
I was standing in line at the bank when I saw a call come in from my beloved. I didn’t answer right then, but called him back when I had returned to the car. Do you know what he wanted? He just wanted to make sure I was okay, because I hadn’t arrived back home yet.
I know it may seem like no big deal, but I was totally turned on by this little act of kindness.
It is so easy in marriage to take each other for granted just from the sheer amount of mundane adulting that happens. Let’s face it—we spend a lot of time in marriage staying on top of the details (or juggling the details) that are required just to keep a home from going off the rails.
It is so easy to take each other for granted; not intentionally, of course, but it happens nonetheless. You each are doing your part to keep the plates spinning, but you’re so busy spinning the plates that you can forget to do those little acts of kindness.
Like hugs.
Like checking in with each other.
Like expressing concern if someone is running late.
Like pitching in, even if it’s not something you normally handle.
Like saying “I love you” and “thank you” and “sleep well” and “I miss you.”
So when you’re checking on the pulse of your relationship, ask yourself how you are doing with little acts of kindness. Does your spouse know how much you care? Little acts of kindness speak volumes. And if you’re like me, you might find them quite sexy!
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Kindness is definitely sexy in my view.
At first when I told my own wife that she was “sweet, friendly and nice” she liked the compliment though she never considered how sexy I thought those qualities were. I explained that she is like the lovely girl next door of my dreams.
It doesn’t surprise me that your husband was concerned for your well being. A lot of weird stuff is going on and he doesn’t want anything bad to happen to you.
My wife and I express concern to one another’s well being when one or the other is overdue.
Her knees are deteriorating from an old injury that affects her balance and walk slower. I know she appreciates holding onto to my arm as we walk together.
Absolutely Julie!
I find it interesting that your reaction to your husband checking up on you was an act of kindness. My spouse would criticize me and tell me not to be so controlling. Just shows you how marriage relationships are so different…
I too often view it as controlling and not trusting me. Thank you so much for helping me change my way of thinking! Renewing my mind!! I read other marriage pages but yours is my go-to, my absolute favorite, the one that blesses me consistently and helps me be a better, more godly wife in marriage. THANK Y’ALL!!!