I debated going with that headline. It could be quite misleading if you don’t read to the end.
“Do you struggle seeing your husband’s penis…”
That is slightly better than the first headline I wrote, which was, “Do You Struggle Finding Your Husband’s Penis Attractive?” Again, if you don’t read to the end, you may think this is a post about penis size. “Do you struggle finding your husband’s penis…”
What can I say? As a young journalist back in the day, it was drilled into me that headlines matter. Clearly some lessons never leave a person. Writers also cannot help but notice mistakes on billboards. “You had six words to get right! Six. Words.”
Anyway. I digress. This isn’t a post about penis size. Or headline writing, for that matter.
I was thinking about how some wives consider the penis gross rather than beautiful or stunning. Most husbands do not have the same struggle with their wife’s vagina, and certainly not with her breasts.
Generally speaking, husbands tend to be enamored with their wife’s vagina and breasts. But as for a wife’s impression of the penis? The sentiment can be more of begrudging tolerance rather than eager enthusiasm.
Not surprisingly, having a negative perspective of how the penis and the testicles look can diminish the overall perspective a wife may have about sex. Seeing the penis as gross may become synonymous with seeing sex as gross.
To many wives’ credit, the difficulty in embracing a positive view of the penis isn’t always insensitive or malicious. It can just be a lot to take in (figuratively and literally). A wife may feel hesitant to know what to do.
Yet nurturing and enjoying sex in a marriage necessitates moving beyond first impressions and awkwardness. If a wife is to savor, pursue and hold sex in high value, she must think of the penis as more than something to simply passively receive.
Who is with me on this? Do you want to be a sex-positive wife? If so, share in the responsibility and privilege of the mutuality of sex. In other words, gals, it can’t be all about him taking the lead and driving the sexual tone. You too have that opportunity. Husbands, you certainly can help in that direction by having good hygiene and coming to bed clean.
As wives, we do our marriage a world of good by getting over any hang-ups or negative perceptions we may have about our husband’s penis.
I know some women probably think I’m crazy for saying this, but I totally think it’s possible to see a husband’s penis as stunning and worthy of attention. It is not something gross. It is a part of your husband. And just as he shouldn’t be embarrassed or ashamed of it, neither should a wife be embarrassed to enjoy it and to revel in bringing him sexual pleasure in the way she touches it.
The book of Song of Songs in the Old Testament is so visual. Yes, lots of metaphors and allegories, but there’s no doubt this husband and wife think quite fondly of each other’s bodies.
Imagine what it would do for marriages everywhere if husbands and wives would be eager, enthusiastic and complimentary about each other’s bodies?!!
Do you struggle seeing your husband’s penis as attractive? As one wife to another, I encourage you to not settle in with your disdain. Don’t get comfortable or rationalize that your less-than-stellar perspective is okay. Don’t justify it by saying that other women think of penises as disgusting.
We don’t have to get “I Am a Penis-Positive Wife” t-shirts. (Although, that would be quite the conversation starter, wouldn’t it?!)
Do you struggle seeing your husband’s penis as attractive? If so, what are you going to do to improve your perspective?
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