I am going to talk about sex. But first a story.
My husband and I recently bought a new TV because our other one stopped working awhile back.
As many of you know all too well, whether you are buying a washing machine, dishwasher, refrigerator, TV or computer, they are all built to be obsolete or to break a lot sooner than you think they will.
I’m not being negative. I’m just being real.
When we bought a dishwasher a few years ago, the salesman literally told me that it didn’t matter if I spent $500 or $2,500. They are all built to last no more than about 7 years (if you’re lucky). The days of buying an appliance and having it last three or four decades are done.
Up until about four months ago, my husband and I had a fridge from the 1940s in our basement that still was working stellar at keeping beer and milk cold. We gave the fridge to a friend because we had the opportunity to put a larger fridge in its place. (I’m guessing the 1940s fridge will still be chugging along in our friend’s garage long after our newer fridge is limping toward the rubbish heap).
And yes, I do know the 1940s fridge is not efficient at all from an energy consumption standpoint. But isn’t it completely fascinating that it is still running?! That it was keeping milk cold in 1945 and is still keeping milk cold in 2020?!
I’m digressing a bit. Back to the new TV we bought.
As with all new televisions full of technological KAPOW! and SHAZAM!, you have to program the cable remote and the sound bar to work with the TV. Sounds simple enough, right? Well, it would be if you are 12. But we are in our 50s, so clearly we are at a huge disadvantage.
Good news, though (and yes, I am getting to the sex part in this long winding saga). Good news is there is so much helpful information available online on how to program a cable remote to work with a new TV.
Problem solved. I didn’t have to consult a 12-year-old after all.
Helpful information abounds—if we are willing to look for it. And interestingly, it is technology that makes so much of that easier now. And this is as true for Christians wanting solid information about sexual intimacy in marriage as it is for someone wanting to program their remote.
Over the years, as someone who writes and speaks on sex in marriage, I’ve had Christians express to me how nervous they were to look for resources online, for fear just their searching would expose them to unscrupulous sources.
And I get that. I really do. You do have to be cautious to a point…but not to the point of paralysis. All you need to do is find one or two helpful online resource and you likely will then find the path to other similar resources.
Those of us who are Christian writers and speakers on marriage in general and on sex specifically often reference other like-minded writers and speakers. No, we don’t all agree on everything, but you have a discerning heart and mind.
You can sift through information and determine what is applicable to your marriage and what aligns with your theology and beliefs.
What I can assure you is that all the Christian writers and speakers I know run ethical sites that are bountiful when it comes to helpful information. When you are on my site or other reputable sites, take the time to look around. Use the search feature. Search by topic. Or look at the books and other resources they offer.
There has never been a better time to look for Christian resources on sex. You don’t have to wait for a yearly marriage conference to come to your area. You don’t have to fill out a form and mail it off to get on a newsletter list or buy a book. You don’t have to talk to a pastor or other church leader simply to find out about resources.
You can advocate for yourself and find so many resources on improving sexual intimacy in your marriage.
Along those lines, I managed to program my cable remote without having to actually call my cable company. (Thanks internet!) And I have to say, I’ve managed to develop some mad skills in the bedroom without having to attend an entire weekend conference.
There is a ridiculous amount of fabulous information out there from my fellow writers and speakers on intimacy available to you 24/7.
It’s easy to find Christian advice on sex. It didn’t used to be. But it is now. Yeah!
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