What an odd headline.
Are you practicing authentic sex in your marriage?
I actually stole the phrasing from an article I read on the website Medium, where author Nicolas Cole points out in a post that “every single moment, of every single day, you are ‘practicing’ something.”
The article is about success strategies in general, but I kind of started drooling a bit in love over this concept that we are always practicing something. You can find the article at this link. Any time an article causes me to pause and sit up and take notice, I sense the author has a lesson embedded in it for me.
Cole’s gist was that we are either bettering our lives or slacking a bit.
Or a lot. Maybe we are slacking a lot.
He even went on to say that if we aren’t practicing a specific thing, we are practicing not doing it. He gave the very basic example of flossing. “If you don’t floss in the morning, you’re practicing not flossing.”
The flossing example kind of made me laugh. Another example made me cringe.
“If you watch TV instead of working on your book, you’re practicing postponing your dream of becoming a novelist.”
Be still my heart. If you only knew how many books I have in me. Sigh. Message humbly received, Mr Cole. Thank you.
I also got to thinking about sex in marriage. Are you practicing authentic sex in your marriage?
My husband and I have not always been the best practicers, in this regard. But at times—many times, in fact—we have been stellar. Top notch practicers. And now that I’m thinking of it all with this kind of verbiage, I can better see the seasons and moments when we slacked big time in practicing.
So take pause right now. Reflect a bit on this concept of how well you are practicing intimacy in your marriage.
You don’t have to narrow it just to sex. How well are you practicing all kinds of intimacy in your marriage? This could be a profound conversation starter with your spouse.
As I have often said, we are always learning to be married. Nicolas Cole is right. We are always practicing something.
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