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It’s All in Your Head: Feeling Sexy No Matter Your Hair Color
Mar
I was thinking recently about the first time several years ago I noticed a gray hair on my head. I was rather shocked.
And I diligently did what a lot of women do when they spot that first gray hair—took a pair of tweezers and plucked it out!
Of course, it doesn’t take long to realize how pointless that strategy is. So pointless to start plucking gray hairs one by one. And I never felt compelled to start coloring it, so I didn’t embark on that strategy either.
So the gray hairs just kept coming.
Tonight when I was drying my hair after showering, I wasn’t even stunned by the amount of gray hair that seems to have developed in just the past few weeks. That’s what stress will do. And I’m not even talking about the virus chaos, which has been creating waves of uncertainty and bewilderment everywhere. Although, I’m sure that stress has added a few gray hairs as well.
I think about so many of my friends who have experienced stress over the years. Of course, that’s really all of us, right?!! I mean, who is spared life’s angst and tragedies? Who gets to come through without a few gray-hair-inducing calamities? No one. That’s who.
We are universally guaranteed no guarantees.
So this is where attitude has to shine. This is where we have to muster the courage and belief to look in the mirror and make peace with—even admire—what we see. No matter how battle worn. No matter how many gray hairs grace your head.
Whether anyone else thinks my gray hairs are sexy matters little to me. I find them rather sexy. And in time, I’ll get to see how sexy my full head of gray is. Probably will take way less time than I can even comprehend. So be it.
Now mind you, I’m not criticizing anyone who isn’t fond of their gray hair and dives into the world of hair color. That’s sexy, too! Whether you go natural with turning gray or choose instead to color your hair, what matters is the attitude.
When you look in the mirror, try to see sexy, okay? That’s the kind of attitude I’m training myself to embrace. It’s all in your head… feeling sexy no matter your hair color.
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Yes, gray hair is sexy. Anything and everything about my wife is sexy.
Sitting next to each other, holding hands in the shade on miniature sized lawn chairs at Hapuna Beach is sexy. (or on the back deck or spending time washing the dishes together is also sexy)
But we get the same feeling at night and totally exhausted from work and falling asleep in one another’s arms.
Our hair colors are changing and also thinning a little on top. We don’t fit the same size clothes we did 40 years ago when we laid our eyes on one another.
But admittingly a few days ago, we had just expressed that whenever we see each other in the supermarket or in the bedroom it’s like poetry-in-motion. Now that is sexy.
This is how I feel about my husband’s receding widow’s peak, so why wouldn’t he feel that way about my gray hairs? (Which are few and far between now, but multiplying.)