body image, sexual intimacy, sexual intimacy struggles, Uncategorized
Sexually Delighting in a Wife’s Breasts: A Turn on for You and Your Spouse
Feb
Do you and your husband appreciate what your breasts add to your sexual intimacy?
As Christians, we should be jumping up and down with joy that it was God who first set the tone for arousal in a marriage and the allure of the naked body.
For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh. The man and his wife were both naked, and they felt no shame. (Genesis 2:25)
May your fountain be blessed, and may you rejoice in the wife of your youth.
A loving doe, a graceful deer — may her breasts satisfy you always, may you ever be captivated by her love. (Proverbs 5:18-19)
Your stature is like that of the palm, and your breasts like clusters of fruit. I said, “I will climb the palm tree; I will take hold of its fruit.” May your breasts be like the clusters of the vine, the fragrance of your breath like apples, and your mouth like the best wine. (Song of Songs 7:7-9a)
Wowsers!! There’s a lot going on in those verses. Anyone who would ever argue sex is for procreation only must have read some bootlegged CliffsNotes version of the Bible. The complete text is a bit more enthralling and sexually generous.
Thank. God.
So in this post, let’s talk about a wife’s breasts.
Before we do so, though, I want to offer genuine recognition that I know this post may strike a heartbreaking chord for women and couples who have been affected by breast cancer. While procedures and some insurance coverages have come a long way in addressing the disfiguration some women experience from lumpectomies and mastectomies, I in no way want to minimize the impact of breast cancer on a couple’s marriage and intimacy.
My heart today is to encourage husbands and wives in enjoying the unique attributes of a woman’s body and the potential the breasts have to enhance intimacy. Look at your own circumstances and see if any of the below is encouraging.
So often we think of only the husband being so turned on by breasts, but I must admit that I’m a bit of a boob gal, meaning that my husband’s attention to this area of my body can have a profound positive effect on my arousal.
You and your spouse may already know the below tips, but why not read anyway to see if anything new sparks some ideas? I believe you may be inspired.
3 Tips to Consider with the Breasts
1. Be sensitive to when her breasts could be tender.
Depending on where a woman is in her cycle, her breasts may be tender. As a wife, you need to give your husband a heads up about this and encourage him to be more gentle at those times (unless he is so in tune with your cycle that he doesn’t need a heads up, and if that is the case, kudos to him. Impressive.)
With the exception of when her breasts may be tender, some wives do like a firm touch and somewhat assertive play with the nipples. Or they may prefer a combination of touches, anywhere from extremely light to firm.
Again, I can’t encourage you enough as a wife to express to your husband what you like, even taking his hand and showing him how to touch you. Assumption is the death of fantastic sex. It just is. So let’s not operate from a place of assumption. Wives, tell him and show him what feels good in how he touches your breasts. Husbands, ask her what feels good.
2. Enjoy more access with different positions.
If your husband enjoys caressing your breasts and/or you enjoy this as well, then the more access you give, the better. That means trying different positions, especially as part of foreplay.
No newsflash here, but actual intercourse is only one aspect of a sexual encounter (and in some cases, intercourse isn’t always included because of other creative play where you bring each other to climax).
A great position that gives a husband extended time to caress is when he is propped up against a wall with some pillows in a sitting position and his wife sits in front of him with her back to him, leaning against his chest. Both of his hands are then free for ample caressing as he wraps his arms around her.
Another awesome position is wife on top facing him. Again, both his hands are free and visually this is a delight for him as well, which simultaneously can be a delight for you as a wife. It’s a huge turn on to arouse him, isn’t it? So give him a show. Let him enjoy you visually and physically.
3. Remember, it’s not just about the hands.
Sure it’s not hard for us to see why caressing the breasts with hands is arousing, but have you explored other creative ways to give and get those touches? What about gently rubbing your breasts on his penis and testicles?
And what about his tongue and mouth?
For some couples, just the feel of the wife’s breasts on his chest when they make love is super arousing for them both. And definitely a combination of touches at once can up the arousal significantly. For example, oral sex and caressing of a wife’s breasts at the same time may make her orgasm more intense. Also, a wife may find that as she touches her own breasts during lovemaking, this could be a huge turn on for both her and her husband.
Sometimes it’s not just naked breasts that are alluring, but the discreet and seductive covering and uncovering of them as well.
Some men like to see their wife in a sexy bra. Other men may prefer how attractive she looks with no bra, but a white t-shirt. Or maybe your husband would find it incredibly arousing if you started foreplay with nothing on but one of his unbuttoned dress shirts. There is a lot of creative potential with the breasts, that’s for sure.
I think the more confident, intentional and generous a husband and wife grow in their sexual intimacy, the easier it is for them to see God’s provision in intimacy.
God could have downplayed or left out all together the potential for breasts to be erogenous, relegating them nothing beyond sustenance for a baby. But He is a God of abundance. And just as sex is for more than procreation, the various features of our body are well designed for more too.
If you and your husband rarely take the time to enjoy how your breasts enhance sexual intimacy in your marriage, how could you grow in this area? If you already do enjoy this, take the time to tell each other why. If assumption is the death of fantastic lovemaking, affirmation is the life of it.
If you struggle with body image, check out my list of blog posts at this page. And for even more reading, cruise through my list of past posts. as well as my page with a bunch of posts on orgasm.
Copyright 2019, Julie Sibert. Intimacy in Marriage Blog. Links may be monetized.
Never want to miss one of my posts? Subscribe via email on this page. And be sure to join my more than 10,000 followers on my Facebook page and 11,000 followers on Twitter.
This is not a turn on for my wife. To be honest, I never of a Christian wife being turned on in this way. Kissing, yes but not caressing/kissing her breasts. I hope there are more Christian wives who think like you…many of us Christian husbands are tired of being called perverted. 🙁
Thanks for your comment, Anonymous. I’m sorry to hear your wife shows no interest in this aspect of sexual intimacy, even to the extent that it would excite you. I actually do know several Christian wives who enjoy having their husbands caress and kiss their breasts… I think for many couples it is a vibrant part of foreplay and intimacy.
My wife’s breasts, specifically her nipples, are literally her “ON” buttons. The quickest way for me to arouse her is to play with her nipples. I love doing anything I can with them. Sucking on them is included in virtually all lovemaking sessions. It’s a big turn-on for both of us.
I confess I am a big huge lover of my wife’s breasts I am very turned on by them but unfortunately they are not sexual for her at all
She allows me to play grope with her etc for my enjoyment etc I tho k she does enjoy it to a point but not in a sexual way
I wish they were more responsive sexually but that’s how god made her
Do you have any advice for a wife whose nipples are way too sensitive? I really want to enjoy having my breasts touched by my husband, but instead it’s a very uncomfortable experience for me. He doesn’t seem to mind being cautious with my nipples, but I really want to experience the joy of being touched and kissed there without extreme physical discomfort. It could be partly connected to negative past experiences with boyfriends who were too rough. I have a lot of fear and anxiety connected to that part of my body and I just wish I could let it go and enjoy my husband’s loving touch. Have you heard of anyone else with this problem? Do you have any ideas of what could help?
My wife’s breasts, especially her nipples, are very sensitive and, as a commenter said above, her “on” button. If I spend 5-10 minutes just licking and gently sucking on her nipples, she will be soaking wet and ready for sex. Plus, they are just large enough (c cup) to provide lots of “options” for fun. I couldn’t imagine our sex life if her breasts were not her main access point to arousal.
Really good reminders of how Gods design of how beautiful love making can be and should be. Thank you so much.
Pingback: 5 Motivations to Finally Improve Sex in Your Marriage – Intimacy in Marriage
Like “Oversensitive” above, my wife’s nipples are very sensitive, and she says it tickles way too much for me to kiss over even touch them except very briefly, even when she’s aroused. This has been a problem since giving birth to our son several years ago. Any thoughts on how to overcome this?
@ Anonymous—
I’m not a therapist; just a fellow male reader who enjoys Julie’s blog and the value of her ministry. But there’s something in what you wrote that struck a cord with me: It sounds like there’s something deeper going on—with her, with you, with you both—that inspires her to call your affection for her breasts ‘perverted’. Have you two taken some time to explore that?
@ Oversensitive & Steve—
Are there other things about your wives’ breasts that appeal to you that don’t involve their nipples that would both would enjoy? For example, what about kissing or even sucking on parts of her breasts around the nipples, like the sides, or between? Or just cradling them in your hands, enjoying their contour and texture and weight? Or savoring their fragrance? Or just delighting in the view of them?
At the same time, what are the parts of your wives bodies that *do* ingite under your touch? I’m probably stating the obvious, but explore those more.
Delight indeed we do, especially now.
I like turning on my wife and her breasts are definitely one way to do that. It also turns me on. When I coach guys on marriage, I tell them to get to know their wife and what works.
This is an area worth exploring for better sex and intimacy.
I lost my wife a couple of years ago she’s in heaven wonderful Christian lady . Our sex life was great now she’s gone, I still have sexual desires. I’ve been doing some research on the subject. My sexual desires are still high do you have any advice.
My breasts are not particularly sensitive, but I do encourage my husband’s touch there. I have severely inverted nipples (a flaw which is rarely addressed when discussing the sexual aspects of breasts). I don’t know if they would be more sensitive if they were protruding. They might, they might not. Overall though, this has never been a problem in our sex life. Nipples are just one (or two) small parts of a woman’s body. There’s so much more…
Pingback: Episode 16: What to Do with a Wife's Breasts - Knowing Her Sexually
Pingback: Husbands, Want Some Tips on Stimulating Your Wife's Breasts?
It feels illegal to read this article and its comments I don’t know why lol I guess it’s just the household I was raised in where topics like this were not discussed because it was taboo or shouldn’t be talked about