It’s wedding season.
And I can’t help but to reflect back on a wedding I attended years ago.
The pastor looked at the groom during the ceremony and boldly said, “Son, you better satisfy her sexually. Or someone else will.”
You could hear the collective gasp in that sanctuary.
But you know what?!
That pastor was full of profound insight.
Sure, we can think of a few other ways he maybe could have said it (like maybe that they should both satisfy each other sexually).
BUT, honestly, I passionately believe his point was spot on.
Sex matters in a marriage.
And the sooner we help young marriages realize this, the BETTER.
I’ll be headed to my niece’s wedding early this summer, and I can’t help but ponder about what young marriages really need these days.
Actually, it’s what young marriages have ALWAYS needed.
Solid information about sexual intimacy in marriage.
Think about how much better off marriages would be if they could start with a healthy perspective on sex?
Think how much heartache would be prevented? How much sexual struggle could be minimized if a couple could build a solid sexual foundation from the get-go, rather than try to repair the sexual disconnect years or decades later?!
No, I’m not so naive to believe that building a strong healthy marriage all comes down to sex. I know full well that marriage is hard and takes tremendous commitment, sacrifice, compromise and investment on all fronts.
But still this truth remains: When sexual connection is ignored, downplayed or relegated to the “we’ll get to nurturing it someday,” the marriage suffers. There is no question about this.
Don’t even get me started about the infamous “someday.” I remember telling myself that in my first marriage. You can read more about my story here.
Sex matters in a marriage.
Today, I encourage you to do a brave and wise thing.
Invest in the young marriages you care about — the ones that are about to begin and the ones that are still in their early years.
When I co-authored the book Pursuit of Passion: Discovering True Intimacy in Your Marriage, my heart was to make a difference in marriages — to help them be PRO-ACTIVE in pursuing amazing sexual connection.
My book is available in eBook, audio book and PRINT, so you have many options.
It’s comprehensive and biblical and specific encouragement, so I have no doubt that ANY couple could glean nuggets of gold from it.
Even if you don’t want to buy my book, there are countless books out there by Christian authors. We really have no excuse for not helping couples discover true intimacy in their marriage.
At any rate, give the perfect gift this wedding season. Invest in the marriages you care about.
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