Going to Weddings? Here’s the Perfect Gift…


It’s wedding season.

And I can’t help but to reflect back on a wedding I attended years ago.

The pastor looked at the groom during the ceremony and boldly said, “Son, you better satisfy her sexually. Or someone else will.”


You could hear the collective gasp in that sanctuary.

But you know what?!

That pastor was full of profound insight.

Sure, we can think of a few other ways he maybe could have said it (like maybe that they should both satisfy each other sexually).

BUT, honestly, I passionately believe his point was spot on.

Sex matters in a marriage.

And the sooner we help young marriages realize this, the BETTER.

I’ll be headed to my niece’s wedding early this summer, and I can’t help but ponder about what young marriages really need these days.

Actually, it’s what young marriages have ALWAYS needed.

Solid information about sexual intimacy in marriage.

Think about how much better off marriages would be if they could start with a healthy perspective on sex?

Think how much heartache would be prevented?  How much sexual struggle could be minimized if a couple could build a solid sexual foundation from the get-go, rather than try to repair the sexual disconnect years or decades later?!

No, I’m not so naive to believe that building a strong healthy marriage all comes down to sex.  I know full well that marriage is hard and takes tremendous commitment, sacrifice, compromise and investment on all fronts.

But still this truth remains: When sexual connection is ignored, downplayed or relegated to the “we’ll get to nurturing it someday,” the marriage suffers.  There is no question about this.

Don’t even get me started about the infamous “someday.”  I remember telling myself that in my first marriage.  You can read more about my story here.

Sex matters in a marriage.

Today, I encourage you to do a brave and wise thing.

Invest in the young marriages you care about — the ones that are about to begin and the ones that are still in their early years.

When I co-authored the book Pursuit of Passion: Discovering True Intimacy in Your Marriage, my heart was to make a difference in marriages — to help them be PRO-ACTIVE in pursuing amazing sexual connection.

pursuit-of-passionMy book is available in eBook, audio book and PRINT, so you have many options.

It’s comprehensive and biblical and specific encouragement, so I have no doubt that ANY couple could glean nuggets of gold from it.

Even if you don’t want to buy my book, there are countless books out there by Christian authors.  We really have no excuse for not helping couples discover true intimacy in their marriage.

You can find out more about the various buying options for Pursuit of Passion at this link.  Or if you are an Amazon fan, you could just go directly to the Amazon link.

At any rate, give the perfect gift this wedding season.  Invest in the marriages you care about.

Copyright 2016, Julie Sibert. Intimacy in Marriage Blog. Links may be monetized.

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5 thoughts on “Going to Weddings? Here’s the Perfect Gift…

  1. Al says:

    Sorry, I feel that comment from the pastor in the wedding ceremony was totally inappropriate. If that had happened at my church in one of my children’s weddings I would have been meeting with the board of elders that very day. At the very least any money that the church might have been expecting would not be delivered, or a refund would be demanded. I would expect an apology from the pastor.

  2. Bill S says:

    After familiarizing myself with your site and those you recommend and identifying many of the concepts in my marriage, I bought your book and gave it a read. I’ve involved my wife of 30 yrs in this reading, and I will admit that we have immediately improved our already-intimate marriage. I thought I was a good and considerate partner, and my wife has been very considerate of our needs, but wow 😉

    I’ve since bought 3 more copies – one for my son (married in 2013), one for my daughter (getting married in 4 months), and one for my other son (married 2 weeks ago).

    I pray for them to have the level of intimacy I have with their mom. I’m not sure I could’ve communicated this without the wisdom and guidance you provided. Grateful to you.


  3. Julie Sibert says:

    @Bill S — you bless me with your comments and your commitment to pour into other marriages. THANK YOU!! We need more people like you!

  4. Sean says:

    I am very impressed that this wise pastor was willing to have the courage to say this. It is way past due that churches have emphasized the importance of sex.

  5. Meg says:

    Thank you ! I’ve been reading your blogs for the last month or so. I’m getting married in a week and am so thankful for the refreshing insight , wisdom and humour you have . Both my almost hubby and I love reading your blog 🙂 We both want to value and honour each other in our marriage and feel connected every way we can.’waiting’ was the greatest gift I could give and recieve .. Sincerely Meg

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