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The Sad Little Lock Someone Forgot to Use
Aug
It was quite the amateur mistake.
I mean, for someone who blogs about sex, that is.
Of all people, I should know the necessity of a locked bedroom door during sex.
Yet, there we were as the 8-year-old strolled into the room at 1:30 a.m.
I’m sure a cartoon bubble appeared above my head with the words, “Really God?! We needed like another minute. Seriously. One. More. Minute.”
How does that ol’ biblical wisdom go?
Pride cometh before the fall.
(Which, for our purposes here, can be translated as, “Someone may find herself in a humbling position right as she remembers how she has adamantly told others about the value of using a bedroom lock.”)
Anyway, where was I?
One more minute and the sleepy-eyed small person would have meandered in to find two completely relaxed, satisfied — and covered — parents.
Instead, he walked in and… well, honestly, I don’t think he caught on to anything, because we were so coy and clever. We smoothly transitioned into normal sleeping positions while filling the room with, “Hey buddy! Couldn’t you sleep? Do you need a drink? Did you have a bad dream? We’ll give you a pony for Christmas if you go back to your room for 10 more minutes.”
Yeah, he was oblivious to our forced awkward verbiage.
He continued on his path straight to the floor next to my side of the bed, where we have on occasion told him he could come sleep. If the door isn’t locked.
Oh, the irony.
He may have gathered something was amiss when instead of finding the blanket that is normally there for him, he kept trying to use my hastily thrown pajamas to cover himself up. He even said with complete annoyance, “These aren’t my blanket?! Where is my blanket?!”
Despite my best attempts to coax him back to his room, he set up camp right where he was, complete with stuffed animals and so forth. After all, this is a space where we do let him sleep. If our door isn’t locked. Did I already mention our door wasn’t locked?
It was frustrating to say the least. I mean, clearly, we hadn’t reached our destination, which despite all the interruptions and fumbling for modesty, still kind of seemed within reach, even if not within reach in our own room.
It was like everything in my body was militantly yelling, “Stay the course! For the love of country, stay the course!!”
What could we do, though?
I mean, we couldn’t lock him in our bedroom.
First of all, that’s not even possible. Secondly, what parent really wants their kid sitting in therapy some day, blaming his woes on the time his parents barricaded him in their own bedroom so they could go have sex in his?
Uh, no thanks.
And, anyway, there’s not even a lock on his door.
So, we didn’t exactly barricade him in our room.
Let’s just say some noisy toys may or may not have been strategically placed should a small person decide at 1:45 a.m. to sleepily wander from one part of the house (like his parents’ bedroom) to another part of the house.
Yeah, that may or may not have happened.
Moral of the story? Have a lock on your bedroom door. Actually use it.
Copyright 2013, Julie Sibert. Intimacy in Marriage Blog.
Yeah, seriously need to get a lock. Luckily, our house is old, I’m don’t think any of the kids actually have the strength to force our door open if it’s latched…but that day is coming soon…
Worst nightmare! LOL. The other night… I realized I forgot to lock the door in the middle and couldn’t continue until I had done so…
Some day, you will be able to give that child the car keys and some money and tell him you’ll text him when it’s safe to return home. Not that we’ve ever done that with all three kids or anything.
LOL! Yes – we don’t have a lock on our bedroom door and can’t apply one since we rent, but usually put a playpen, pile of clothes, or SOMETHING to make noise or slow the progression. I admit that when we’re elsewhere and there’s no possibility of kids walking in I fully appreciate the lack of care needed to snag some play time. 😉
Oh my goodness! How frustrating. I love the “we’ll give you a pony” line, because if you’re at that point, yeah, you do not want to be interrupted, not for anything.
I just assume that my kids will need therapy someday for something I did. Why not have it be their parents’ healthy sex lives? 😉 No, actually, I lock the door. I’ve also learned that the hard way.
Well, our door has a lock, but I’ve never been allowed to close the door, much less lock it. My wife has always wanted to hear if a little one called for her. Of course that continued into the teen years because now the precedent has been set. Shame too, when I had our house built I had the Master bedroom insulated well and solid core doors installed for privacy and sound proofing. Wasted money 🙁
Never have that problem. Wife sleeps upstairs. Room mate really.
Interest in sex has been zero since first child 10 years ago.
Wish I had the problems you people have.
Thank God that my husband and I instilled in my kids early on that if our door is closed, they are not to even knock on it. (They are now 5 and 9).
Our girls don’t sleep in our bed, so I couldn’t imagine having this issue. Although, I do empathize with you.
So um, how much is the going rate for Pony’s now adays…especially around Christmas time?! ha, ha. Probably a lot less expensive than a lock.
BTW: I’m laughing with you, not at you. No wait, that’s not the truth. I am laughing AT you. 😛
Thanks @TC! I’m laughing at me too! Ha!
Thanks Julie for such a candid and relevant essay. Yes, lock the door.
We never had that problem. But, at one time in our marriage, our young son’s bedroom was on the other side of the wall from ours. Then the issue became what he might, and sometimes did, hear, and the question or two that followed.
That wouldn’t have been the first time for us. We’ve had to rush around at the most inopportune times (and positions) to pretend all is hunky dory. You’d think we would have learned after the first born. But oh no. Kept doing the gamble right through with the third and final offspring. It’s amazing how inventive one can become at 3 in the morning and less than 10 brain cells active at the time!
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