Intimacy in Marriage

BETTER Sex in Your Christian Marriage

How Much Time Does Sex Really Take, Anyway?

So, my husband was off work the other day.

After we meandered through mundane errands, we found ourselves with a small window of opportunity before having to pick up the kids from school.

By small, I mean 15 minutes.  We made the most of it, if you know what I mean.

I don’t really understand the argument of “not enough time” for sex.  Honestly, how much time does it really take, anyway?

Don’t get me wrong… there certainly are a lot of positives about sexual encounters that are drawn out experiences.  Hey, what’s not to like about sexual anticipation and foreplay that stretches throughout the day?

But… if having an entire day (or even 2-3 hours) to devote to sexual allure is always a prerequisite for sex to actually happen, we’d be missing out on some amazing opportunities.

(Like opportunities that show up as 15-minutes before snagging the kiddos from school). Honestly, it was the best 15 minutes of our day.  Indescribable, I tell you.

So, back to this “there isn’t enough time for sex” argument.  If “time” prerequisites are holding your sexual intimacy hostage, do the courageous thing.

Stop telling yourself (and your husband) that there isn’t enough time for sex. Walk instead in a healthier direction.

Push the laundry off the bed, lock the bedroom door, and make the most of the opportunities you’ve been waltzing right by.   Truth be told, there is enough time for sex. (If you ask me, there’s always enough time for sex, but hey, that’s me. I might not be the average everyday housewife in that regard. Hard saying.)

Can a marriage really be nurtured in 15 minutes?  Absolutely!

Now that I have your attention on this, I want to tell you about a resource my pal Dustin Riechmann is offering.  Dustin blogs on his site Engaged Marriage, and I’ve followed him long enough to trust him.

The man is an inspiring force of goodness when it comes to encouraging marriages.  This guy is sold-out in love with his wife and kids, is humble, and is dedicated to speaking hope into broken places. Plus, he speaks out of his own story, which I always appreciate much more than lofty theories. (Lofty theories annoy me more than they inspire me).

Like a lot of you (and like me), Dustin’s life is full and busy and a wee-bit overwhelming at times.  So he gets it.  And he’s put together this eBook about a 15-Minute Marriage Makeover.  He shows you how just 15 minutes a day over a month can radically improve your marriage.

As a blogger, I am asked regularly to read stuff like this.  Dustin even gave me the opportunity to read his eBook before he was ready to release it.  (He didn’t even mind when the journalist in me caught a few of his typos. Gotta like that kind of humility.)

I only recommend items that I think have enough meat to them to really make a difference in someone’s marriage. If you and your spouse could spend 15 minutes a day and experience closer connectedness, wouldn’t it be worth it?!  (Come on… please say “yes” to that, even just to humor me).

Dustin’s tips are spot-on.  I was pleasantly relieved as I read the entire eBook to discover that Dustin isn’t afraid to be real.  And his tips are specific enough that you and your spouse could really gain some healthy ground in your marriage.

The eBook costs $27.  The price really is a very small investment and bargain when compared to what you are spending on other things in your life. What are you plopping down for high-speed internet?  What about the weekly trips to Starbucks?  What about pizza after your kid’s baseball game? You get the point.

Because I’m committed to being up front and honest, if you buy the eBook through this link on my blog here, I get a portion of each sale. Why is this so great? Because it means Dustin has done the wise thing and taken steps to make sure as many marriages as possible benefit from his eBook.  That’s his heart, people.  I’m just saying.

Your marriage is worth it.  15 minutes a day.  (Think what you paid for your wedding. Or your honeymoon.  Or the rings you put on each other’s hands. Or your last haircut.)  We’re talking about your marriage.  My husband and I are going to do the eBook.  (Yes, even people like us who have amazingly hot sex still have lots to learn about marriage. Trust me.)

So how are you going to spend 15 minutes today making your marriage better? You could go the sex route.  Or you could read lesson one in the eBook.  Or you could get wild and crazy and do both!  Don’t hold back now.

Copyright 2011, Julie Sibert, Intimacy in Marriage Blog.

March 7th, 2011 by