These are trying times. For a lot of people and a lot of couples, these are trying times.
This pandemic has exposed us, reminded us about vulnerabilities.
Now I’m not here to debate the pandemic or the politics surrounding it, because…well…I made a decision awhile back that getting caught in debate that is already so divisive feels wildly unproductive to me.
If I want to be unproductive, I can do that all on my own, thank you. I literally just watched a lovely montage of movie scenes from the 80s, as well as one of those funny videos from those imomsohard gals. Now I’m wondering if there would have been a more productive way to spend the last 10 minutes.
Anyway. I digress.
Regardless of how you feel about the pandemic, there is no denying it has disrupted life in ways few of us have ever seen. And that’s stressful.
School and business closures; weird concerns about whether we all have enough toilet paper; apprehension about who will get sick and what getting sick even will mean; accommodations in the way we gather and socialize or even stand in line somewhere; uncertainties about finances and job security; a barrage of statistics that oscillate between alarming and annoying and downright confusing.
So. Many. Logistical. Adjustments.
And, of course, there is a toll that is much harder to pinpoint, such as isolation, anxiety and depression. It’s no wonder these are trying times. For a lot of people and a lot of couples, these are trying times.
I know you probably already know this, but I’m going to say it anyway.
It’s good to ask for help in trying times.
I don’t know what that looks like for each person, but I do know that asking for help is a sign of strength and courage, not a sign of weakness. Asking for help may save your life or your sanity.
Sometimes asking for help means reaching out to a safe friend or mentor and sharing that you are overwhelmed and stressed.
Sometimes asking for help means seeking a community resource, mental health hotline or support group.
Sometimes asking for help means going to a professional resource, such as a counselor or a health care professional.
Sometimes asking for help means visiting with a pastor or priest.
The important thing is that if you are struggling, it’s good to ask for help.
These are trying times. For a lot of people and a lot of couples, these are trying times. It’s good to ask for help in trying times.
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