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Do You Appreciate When Your Spouse Desires You?

sexual-desire-in-marriageBefore the social distancing had ramped up and there were more people out and about shopping, my husband and son did a quick trip to Target to pick up a few things.

While there, my husband noticed a women’s Chicago Cubs t-shirt for sale. I mention that it was a women’s t-shirt, because what he noticed was that it was tailored to.. shall we say… accentuate the assets a bit.

So he called me to see what size he should get me. He was super excited. And I was super touched.

It is a cool shirt (and we are Cubs fans. At this point we just are hoping there will be a baseball season!)

When I tried the shirt on, I thought maybe it was a little big, but I wanted his opinion. He seemed kind of surprised that I was getting his opinion on how it fit, so I lovingly shared my reasoning. I smiled and said, “You bought it because you thought it would look good on me, so I just want to make sure it really looks good in all the right ways. I’d be willing to exchange it for a medium, if you know what I mean.”

He smiled. I smiled. He liked how it fit, so no need for me to head back to Target to search for a medium. (Side note: When it comes to clothing, you do need good discernment on your spouse’s tastes. Rand knew a Cubs t-shirt was a better bet than an ultra-revealing tight top.)

My point with all this is that it’s nice to be desired. It’s not about the shirt so much as it is about him thinking of me, and me being really turned on by that.

He saw the shirt and thought of me. From my perspective as his wife, it was more than just a nice gesture. It was affirmation that he likes my body. And if a Cubs t-shirt from Target gets him excited when he thinks of me in it, then that gets me excited. Too often I think husbands and wives miss opportunities to express desire and to receive such expression enthusiastically.

Whether you are a husband or a wife reading this, there is a lesson here. Appreciate what it means to desire and to be desired. A profound transformation happens in a marriage when both spouses genuinely appreciate and nurture desire.

So buy the Cubs shirt for your sweetie. Or the Astros shirt. I mean, I won’t hold it against you if you buy the Astros shirt. I mean if that’s your thing. But the Astros. Seriously?

Just kidding!

For more reading, you can cruise through my list of past posts, as well as my page with a bunch of posts on orgasm.

And I have a 5 video series available on building better sex in your marriage. Great way to invest in your marriage!  You can find out all about it at this link:  Better Sex in Your Christian Marriage.

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April 8th, 2020 by