It was raining as we crawled beneath the sheets, the sound of water running down the gutter outside our window.
The song “Who’ll Stop the Rain” weaved its way into our conversation in the dark, as we laughed and cuddled and lay naked next to each other.
And we were trying to remember who sang that song originally.
(We also were trying to remember the first name of a kid who our oldest son played baseball with several years ago, which really had nothing to do with the rain song. But it helps paint a picture for you of the randomness of our conversation).
Anyway, in our attempt to remember the song, I racked my brain for other lyrics in it, but came up blank.
I rolled over and grabbed my phone and did a search. (For the love of God, what did we do before the internet?! Seriously.)
It’s Creedence Clearwater Revival, by the way. Released in 1970, the year I was born.
So we played the small portion of the song, and I tried to join in right before the clip ended, which my husband, laughing, unabashedly said, “You added nothing to it.”
So true. And we laughed about that.
What’s my point in sharing all this with you?
There’s something to be said for connecting with your husband before you drift off to sleep, regardless of whether you have sex.
(Although, I might add, we did make love after all this, if you can believe it. Maybe having finally identified CCR as the artist, not to mention my stellar vocal contribution, lent well to putting us in a playful mood. Midway through foreplay, I remembered the name of the kid our son played ball with and I mentioned it to my husband. Which, not gonna lie, seems kind of weird to think about now as I tell you.)
My beloved and I have had some of our most endearing conversations and connection in those moments between awake and asleep — the moments that are intensely personal, private and full of the kind of knowing that is harder to find in the busyness of daily life.
It’s sweet, sweet connection, and it’s one of the reasons we try on a regular basis to crawl into bed together.
I wrote a similar post about this awhile back, where I pleaded, “Keep me in the dark please.”
Do you and your husband try to go to bed together at the same time? I know it’s not always possible.
But strive toward it every now and then, okay? God offers you a profound opportunity in those moments between awake and asleep.
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