Emotionally Destructive Marriages and What You Need to Know

Oh. My.

Every now and then, I come across something that speaks so clearly on a topic that is craving — craving — more clarity.

I recently watched the below webinar with Leslie Vernick and Chris Moles. For quite some time, I have been familiar with Leslie — a Christian author, speaker and counselor who God continues to use to shed light on the havoc that damages marriages.

I know that you are used to me talking about sex (and I know some of you are bummed I haven’t blogged lately.  Crazy life.  So much writing to do, so little time).


In the mean time, if you want solid and specific information about emotionally destructive marriages and abusive marriages, please please please carve out time to watch this webinar.   And share it with your pastors, friends and family members.

We need more truth spoken on this matter, because so many marriages suffer in silence.  There is much at stake, people.   Much at stake.

We as a body of believers and individually can do better to have the hard conversations on the hard issues that impact God’s beautiful covenant of marriage.


Copyright 2014, Julie Sibert. Intimacy in Marriage Blog.

5 thoughts on “Emotionally Destructive Marriages and What You Need to Know

  1. Amy says:

    Thank you for sharing this very important video, Julie.

    I just shared it too on my facebook. I am a huge fan of Leslie’s, and her books and blog helped me through an emotionally, verbally and mentally abusive first marriage. I refer people to her constantly.

    It is such a devastating thing to live with and as a Christian I received so much misinformation for years in my first marriage, 20 to be exact. I was told it wouldn’t happen or he would change if only I submitted more, respected him better and prayed hard enough.

    Leslie’s blog was the first one I read which opened my eyes to the misinformation and the often wrongful teaching in churches regarding this type of abuse in marriages.

    I was often asked if he had ever hit me and when I said no was then treated like a silly woman who was just too sensitive to his words and needed to buck up and get over it…which is exactly how my ex-spouse treated me too.

    Sorry for going on about it, this is obviously a subject very close to my heart.



  2. JustWant2BOne says:


    Thank you so much for sharing your testimony from someone who needed to hear it. I am positive that I am not the only one who needed to hear this as someone who has dealt with verbal and emotional/mental abuse from their spouse in the past and unfortunately these destructive things still occasionally rear their ugly heads into my marriage from time to time, but thankfully not as frequently. These things have no place at all in something God has said is “Holy Matrimony”.

  3. Amy says:


    I’m glad that my words spoke to you.

    It sounds like you have been working through a verbally, emotionally and mentally abusive marriage. I pray that God continues to do a great work in your marriage and gets rid of all abuse.

    You are right — it has no place in a marriage, or any other relationship.


    P.s. — I am working on a blog about my experience of an abusive marriage…if you’re interested in being contacted when it’s up and going feel free to email me. I’m also on Leslie Vernick’s blog occasionally and hope to announce it soon over there.

  4. christine says:

    I am confused with my partner..When we met he was attentive, he moved in and we have lost sexual intimacy and conversation..Due to him being stressed with his online Business – he has invested a lot of money in it…he will be travelling away next year…I am on a liver transplant list and does not know how to handle this…any comments would be appreciate…he is a very quiet, but distant, and has a brain injury, – but a nice person.

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