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I’d Love to Know What You Think…
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Jun
Hello everyone!
I’m doing a quick anonymous survey that would really help me write blog posts on sexual intimacy issues that matter most to you.
I don’t work for Gallup so I can’t say it’s overly scientific (Okay, I can’t say it’s scientific at all). BUT it still would give me some fabulous insights.
Remember — it’s anonymous. I’m not asking for your name or email address or anything like that. And the survey is quick.
Will you help out a gal like me who blogs about sex?
In desperation tonight I discovered this blog. It has been of comfort to me in providing Godly hope for our marriage, if not to provide a more rewarding sexual life, then to at least open communication to relieve my burning resentment.
My husband and I are both in our 50″s . My sex drive is much stronger then his. I am very attractive and sexy and try every trick in the book. Any suggestions?
@Scott… thank you for stopping by the blog. I am glad it has been some comfort for you.
@Toni… have you talked to your husband about your desire for more sex? How much sex are you having right now? Once a week? Once a month? Frequency can be a hard one for couples to get on the same page about, but communication is key.
His sex drive may be waning some, either because of age or signs of erectile dysfunction, which is not uncommon. Key would be to find out why his sex drive is not as high and also to assess if your expectations for more sex are realistic. I guess what I mean by that is that if you are having sex once or twice a week, this is not exactly a desert of sexual activity. But if you are having sex only once a month or less than that, then certainly I can understand why you want to increase frequency.
Sometimes couples discover that even if actual intercourse cannot happen as often (such as in the case of erectile dysfunction), there still can be other close sexual contact going on that is bonding for both of you.
If he seems to shut down when you initiate a verbal discussion about the matter, possibly try writing him a letter, in a tone that really says expresses how much you desire him and enjoy being with him. You like the time you spend together sexually and would love not only more intimate moments like that, but also just more time for the two of you to spend together… going out, enjoying activities in the community, going to movies, etc.
Anyway, you know your husband, so if you write a letter, include suggestions that would appeal to him.
Hope this is helpful…