Intimacy in Marriage

BETTER Sex in Your Christian Marriage

Want a Stronger Family? Intimacy Between Mom and Dad is Key

Today’s post comes from Eric Bateman.  A big shout out to Eric, who is committed to loving well and to being the very best husband and father he can be.  He is encouraging others along those lines as well, so please check out his blog and follow him at  Thank you Eric for sharing so authentically!

When I got married, I had already decided what my sex life with my wife would be like. I just knew it would naturally be fun, frequent, and spontaneous. As one who believes in abstinence before marriage, I was really looking forward to our new intimate life together!

Yes, I was naive about a lot of things in marriage, especially this.

A quick history….when I got married, my wife and I had only known each other for 10 short months (3 of those long-distance).  As a result, we still had work to do to get to know each other… in a lot of ways.  After just 2 years, our son was born —  as you probably know, this can complicate things, especially intimacy.

Now that our son is a toddler, my wife is pregnant again!  We are very excited but, again, it can be a setback on the intimacy front. I have learned from this experience that when the lust and longing of courtship dim with time, intimacy must become a conscious priority. Not only does this include sexual intimacy, but non-sexual touch, emotional intimacy, and romance.

Intimacy and the Family

As a husband and father, creating a healthy, happy, and lasting relationship with my wife and child (soon to be children) is of utmost importance.  One of the pieces to this puzzle is intimacy; not only does it contribute to a healthy marriage, but it can also have an influence on your children.

When I was young boy, my parents always held hands, said I love you, and kissed when one would leave the house.  I knew that they had a loving and intimate relationship (they still do).  As I grew up , dated,  and eventually got married, it proved valuable for me to have parents who weren’t afraid to show affection.  It helped me feel safe and also taught me a lot about what I wanted in my own relationships and how I wanted to treat my wife.

It is important that you put your spouse first, and that your children know that you put your spouse first.  Showing your children non-sexual intimacy is important to their development. In addition to non-sexual intimacy shown to your children, intimacy behind closed doors (because it results in stronger marriage relationship) provides strength and stability for your children.

The stress of having children and raising a family can have an impact on intimacy with your spouse, if you let it.  Prioritize intimacy for yourself, your spouse and your children.  Don’t let anything or anyone (even your children) stop you from accomplishing a healthy, happy, intimate relationship with your spouse!

Copyright 2010. Julie Sibert. Intimacy in Marriage Blog.

July 7th, 2010 by