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What’s Your Take on Make-Up Sex?
Jul
I don’t think I’ve ever written about make-up sex. What?!
Good news! I have two fabulous fellow blogger friends who wanted to talk with me about make-up sex on their super awesome podcast.
J. Parker of Hot Holy & Humorous fame and Chris Taylor of Forgiven Wife fame started a ministry called Knowing Her Sexually.
The Knowing Her Sexually site is dedicated to offering insights and support for Christians husbands. How generous are my friends?!
I think their site is great for husbands and wives. I encourage you to check out all the resources at Knowing Her Sexually.
Okay, so on to the podcast episode! Is make-up sex a myth? And if it’s not, what makes make-up sex genuine ? Do husbands and wives look at make-up sex the same? And what makes make-up sex so great, anyway?!
I don’t know about you, but my husband and I have had some horrible fights…and some indescribable make-up sex! We don’t fight often, but when we do, it’s tense, it’s serious and it creates quite the chasm between us. I love make-up sex a lot, but I don’t think wives and husbands always look at it the same way. What do you think?
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The Myth of Make-Up Sex
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I prefer for it not to happen in the first place, but when it does happen, it can be pretty hot and intense.
I had withheld commenting to see if anyone else chimed in, but since they have not, here are my thoughts…
It is absolutely NOT a myth. I believe it’s an important part of a healthy sex life, particularly for men and women with strong personalities, where sometimes conversations can turn into fights, as you said.
Not only can the make-up sex can be indescribably amazing, as you pointed out, it can also be very healing and set you back on the right path.
In our case, it is vital. I’ve posted before about my inclination towards aggressive lovemaking, and “make up sex” is part of that. For instance, let’s say I maybe have said some things I regret, and it’s put him on edge. Him pounding me in a round of make up sex can help re-balance us both!
Even though we have had our share of fights, we don’t have “make-up sex”. Partly due to the lack of sex already in our marriage but also we don’t see the need to have sex after a fight.
Other things need to happen first, like discussion, apologies, awareness of your wrongdoing in the matter.