What It’s Like to Be a Christian Who Blogs About Sex

Any of you who have followed my blog for more than about one post are well aware that I am, shall we say, comfortable with the topic of sex.  A friend of mine (who shall remain anonymous in this post) even contends I can eventually turn any conversation toward the topic of sex.  That may be taking it a little far.  Hard saying though.  He could be right.

Honestly, despite my apparent comfort level, a blog like this takes some courage.  Anything with the word “sex” in it on the internet quickly becomes a magnet for the most deplorable spam you can imagine. (Suffice to say the reason I screen all the comments on my site is to spare you from the seemingly bottomless pit of skewed sexual content and marketing that tries to latch itself on to any place the word “sex” appears. I, unfortunately, know more about where to buy penis enlargement drugs than I care to admit).

I have considered at times giving up on this blog.  (Just keeping it real for you.  I too have my hesitant moments that many Christians face, regardless of the ministry they offer).

The internal dialogue goes something like this… “Is any of this making a difference?  Would anyone really notice if I just gave up, kicked back and sat on my couch with an overpriced calorie-rich latte?”  

Okay, don’t answer that. Unless, of course, you are sitting on the edge of your keyboard, ready to sing praises for my blog and others like it.  Don’t spill your coffee.  Try to contain your excitment. I have good news for those of you who are still reading.

You can sing praises for my blog and others!  My pal Stu over at www.themarryblogger.com is once again compiling a list of the Top 10 Marriage Blogs.

It’s easy to vote, and since you’re still reading, I can only imagine you do value quality marriage blogs, right?  I’m not delusional in thinking such outlandish thoughts, am I? (Yes, I am delusional on some things, but not this, right?!)

The hard core truth is that those of us who authentically are trying to enrich marriages do not walk an easy path.   There is so much in society and on the internet that tries to sabotage marriage.

My fellow marriage bloggers and I face crazy odds stacked against us when we speak in favor of nurtured marriage.  I can’t speak for all of them, but personally, my marriage comes under tremendous spiritual attack because I am a Christian woman shedding positive light on sexual intimacy in marriage.   That’s just one consequence.  Despite the challenges, I gotta believe it’s worth it.  The emails I get from many of you confirm to me that it’s worth it.

So, if you feel led to do so, please take a gander at Stu’s site and do the voting thingy.  It’s all automated and easy to do.  Stu is cool that way.  I don’t think I’ve ever been nominated for anything.  Maybe safety patrol captain in sixth grade.  I can’t remember though. That was sooo early 80s.

Even if you don’t want to vote for me, vote for one of your other favorite marriage blogs.  We’re trying to do a good thing ya’ll!  Thank you!

Copyright 2010, Julie Sibert, Intimacy In Marriage Blog.

14 thoughts on “What It’s Like to Be a Christian Who Blogs About Sex

  1. Juliet says:

    Hey Julie, I’ve only just come across your blog now via twitter, but don’t worry, I’ll be back- it sounds like your area of interest/passion/vision is one that I care about too- I think there is a huge need for married couples to hear about how to build & maintain intimacy. I look forward to reading more!

  2. Paul Byerly says:


    You stop, and we will complain. Heck, we might show up on your doorstep (it’s not THAT much of a drive!)

    I know how hard it is, I know the names you have been called, I know you have been told you are going to hell and taking people with you. Been there, deleted that. But what you are doing is VERY IMPORTANT! We need more sane (or sane looking) woman saying what you are saying. The anti-sex crowd has been in control too long, and they won’t be defeated easily or quickly – but they are being defeated.

    Thanks so much for what you do. You, and your marraige sex life and all) have our ongoing prayers.

    Paul (and Lori)

  3. Scott says:

    Julie, I empathize with the needling accusations and nagging doubts as to whether what I do as a marriage blogger is having any real impact. The bottom line that I keep coming back to is that even though the odds are stacked against us in terms of the counter-messages out there, I have to just be obedient to do what God is asking of me and try to let the fruit be up to Him.

    Sure, it can be hard at times to stick with it, but as one avid reader who believes what you are doing is important and significant, let me just say KEEP UP THE GREAT WORK!

  4. JulieSibert says:

    Jeff, Paul and Scott… thanks for your encouragement! I agree that anyone who speaks in favor of nurtured marriage is much needed. I’ve been fortunate to “meet” all of you and to meet others who share our passion for encouraging marriages…

    Blessings to you!

  5. Alisha says:

    I missed you on Facebook so had to come looking, not easy on a phone but your encouragement is SO worth it! You’ll get my vote (if it works thru mobile) and I so find a kindred spirit in your statement that you’ve been accused of being able to turn any conversation to sex, LOL! I have learned a little restraint but intimacy is too wonderful a gift from God for people to be SO ashamed of. God bless your work and continue to uplift and encourage you as you do for so many others!

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  7. Jenn says:

    I have just found your site but I am enjoying it already. There are so many sites that talk about sex and sex related things but they don’t honor God. You are doing that! We were never promised an easy road to walk when we accepted Christ. Keep up the amazing work and I will be back!

  8. Lusanda says:

    People like you, Paul & Lori and the Stu Grays of the Christian world are so amazing, you are heroes of the faith. Your input and freedom to talk and write about these things are just exemplary. I want to be a resource to my community just like you as I grow in love and intimacy with God and with my super hot hubby!!

    This is so worth it.

  9. landschooner says:

    Keep it up Julie!!! You are doing a great job! This is GOD honoring work encouraging and supporting a biblical model for marriages!

  10. MWeekly says:

    So glad I found your blog!
    I love that line that you put “the hard core truth is that those of us who authentically are trying to enrich marriages do not walk an easy path” so true. I’m going to go through your archives now 🙂

  11. Zinnada Hodges says:

    You are a blessing. I agree with you of how odd we can be since we are willing to be open about sex. I’d like to post some things on your blog. I printed out the requirements as to how and what we are to put in our posts. I’m still working towards sending it to you. I hope it’ll be a blessing because I would truly desire to join you in on this topic as we both strive to encourage married women to be a blessing to their husbands in the area of being available to them sexually.

  12. Zed Power says:

    Perhaps the Christian experiment in America has failed. And the reason it failed is that an increasing number of those who call themselves Christians are accepting of concepts like “gay Christian.” As though sexuality and sexual activity were assumed and you come if afterward and stick on some stripped down or altered version of Christianity on top of that. Remember how it was supposed to be? That a person would be a Christian first and only after firmly establishing that would one ask how could a Christian in good faith do “X” whatever “X” is. In the US everybody wants to be a black Christian or a cowboy Christian or whatever. This backwards style of Christianity guarantees that eventually there will be no Biblical Christians. There will be only do your own thing, whatever pseudo Christians in name only.

  13. joyce says:

    zed you are so true when I heard on the news that a man say he is a gay christian pastor I was so shocked I thought I was seeing and hearing things this is how the world has come and it’s just proof as to what the bible says would happen in the ending days our Lord is coming soon Halleighlujah

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