intimacy, passion, sexual intimacy, Uncategorized
Bonny’s Oysterbed Rich with Wisdom on Intimacy in Marriage
Jan
A new year has arrived, and I want to be even more dedicated this year to raising awareness on all the blogs that are such invaluable resources to married couples!
Today I want you to check out my friend Bonny’s blog Bonny’s Oysterbed.
She’s such an authentic and needed voice, especially for Christian wives who struggle with low sex drive.
Below are her answers to a couple of questions I’ve been asking my fellow bloggers.
1. Why did you start writing/speaking about sexual intimacy in marriage?
The entire atmosphere of our marriage changed when I made the decision, as the low-libido spouse, to re-evaluate how I viewed sexual intimacy and become a more active participant.
I discovered that there are three aspects of libido (physical, spiritual, and emotional) to which low-libido wives are very sensitive. What I learned compelled me to start writing to help other wives take an active look at their low libido and examine these facets through the lens of the Bible.
2. What do you hope readers/listeners gain from visiting your site?
If you’re a low-libido wife experiencing pain from sexual arguments, the last thing you need is anyone heaping more guilt on her head.
My goal is to gently encourage you to question your beliefs and thoughts about sexual intimacy and to share my journey, as well. If you leave my blog pondering a new positive thought about sexual intimacy, then I’ve done my job. Occasionally, I write to husbands, too.
Favorite Post: Why Sex?
Bonny also is involved in a helpful podcast called Sex Chat for Christian Wives. Bonny and three other blogger friends of mine — Gaye Christmas, J. Parker and Chris Taylor — started this podcast as one more way to encourage and enlighten.
It’s a great platform where they are authentically addressing such important topics with regard to sex. Listen and I think you will agree!
Thank you, Bonny, for being a champion for sexual intimacy in marriage!
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Thank you so much, Julie, for allowing me to share my message and give your readers a look into what I do. I’m blessed to be in this ministry with you! Here’s to reclaiming more marriage beds for God. 🙂
Let’s be honest here, gals. Low sex drive isn’t a “thing” that afflicts some of you and not others. Your DNA, for good reason, lowers your sex drive as you leave your reproductive years (mid-20’s to early 30’s). You shouldn’t be having children beyond your youth, it gets harder to get pregnant and you have a much higher incidence of miscarriages and birth defects the older you get. This is all part of the plan, I suggest we stop talking about it as if every wife over 30 is blazing with desire except the few who aren’t. As a rule, the older a female gets the less interested in sex she is for GOOD REASON. 45-year olds having babies is not a good thing. The upshot for women is to recognize this and stop finding a condition to blame your reduced sex drive on – just have sex when your husband asks! This is also why men are continually attracted to younger women – not only are they better for making children, their sex drive is more like his. Start accepting your own biology and make the commitment to have sex with your husband even when you didn’t think of doing it today – and allow your husband to hold you accountable when you don’t. While enthusiasm during sex is admirable, it isn’t required. Monogamy is bad for men for the very reason I’ve mentioned – it just guarantees sexual denial as the female ages unless she realizes her biology and makes a mental commitment to keep intimacy alive.
@GoodDad — I think you have oversimplified things a bit, but my general philosophy on my blog is to allow for a free exchange of ideas (within reason), even if I don’t always agree.
Anyway, thank you for stopping by the blog.