Sometimes sexual intimacy struggles are beyond what you can sort out on your own. Professional Christian counselors understand the complexities of deep unresolved pain.
Ask your Christian friends or pastor if they can recommend a counselor and/or research on your own to find trusted help you can rely upon.
In the Omaha, Nebraska, area, I recommend the following:
Dena Crosby (www.DenaCrosbyCounseling.com) 402-915-2555
Brian Hofsommer (www.BrianHofsommerCounseling.com) 402-708-2348
Pam Bass (www.PamBass.com) 402-960-1652
If you cannot afford counseling, please read this post, as it may have some helpful suggestions you should consider.