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But not when it's the kind of sex I'm talking about -- between a husband and a wife who see the value of nurtured sexual intimacy.
I dare say that church is one of the BEST places to begin sex, what with God being the designer of sex and all.
(One of the posts I loved writing a few years ago was Worship the Lord. Make Love to Your Spouse.)
When I say sex begins in church, I'm in essence saying sex can begin anywhere. It just takes being intentional with our affection.
Worried you're going to miss the sermon? Or forget about the canned food drive that just scrolled in the messages on the big screen? I'm not worried at all.
For most women, multi-tasking is like sport. If ever there was a gender that could be affectionate and engage in worship and listen to the sermon and remember the canned food drive, it's us women, right?!
Sexual arousal between you and your husband relies heavily on what happens when your clothes are on and you aren't verbally saying anything. The way you discreetly communicate your attraction for your husband can do wonders for what happens when the clothes come off.
We get this.
I mean, it wasn't long ago that the wildly popular song "When You Say Nothing at All" could be heard at countless weddings.
Keith Whitley, Alison Kraus and Ronan Keating all recorded this song, which is a modern-day anthem for speaking love and desire without words. (If you want a sizzlin' hot old school version, just read Song of Songs in the Old Testament).
Anyway. I digress.
Back to this idea that sex begins in church (uh, I mean anywhere. Sex begins anywhere).
Light touch is amazingly alluring. When you run your fingernails along the back of his neck or just under the cuff of his shirt or to caress his hand and trace his fingers, that will pique his interest.
All hand holding is not created equally. Sure, there's the hand holding that says, "Wow! It sure is fun to be at the amusement park together! Let's go!!"
And then there's the hand holding that reassuringly says, "I am so attracted to you. So grateful you are mine. So turned on. Maybe later after this lovely rendition of Amazing Grace, we can go back home and find new and creative ways to agree with God on His amazing gift of sex."
Okay. Maybe it doesn't say all that. But you get the idea.
You can convey your sexual attraction through hand holding. Probably works best if you mix in some light touches along his forearm and wrist as your hand makes its way to his. (I know, I keep coming back to those fingernails, don't I?)
Whispering is not only acceptable between a husband and a wife, it's almost expected if what they're communicating is exclusive to the two of them. We as a society are neither shocked nor offended when lovers whisper to each other.
Lean over and whisper something sweet, sexy or inviting into your husband's ear.
There's just something about a wife's hand resting softly on her husband's knee or thigh.
This particular gesture is incredibly sexy in its own unique way. Maybe because it's an appropriate public touch that is alluring at the same time.
I think we'd have to search high and low to find a husband who doesn't like the feel of his wife's hand on his knee or thigh, whether they are sitting on the couch together or sitting in church together.
Yes, I know. This seems a bit cliche and meek and maybe even a bit sappy. Who cares.
Laying your head on his shoulder and leaning into him can be a great way to say, "I want to be close to you."
When you do any of the above, you are discreetly and passionately giving clues to a puzzle the two of you will solve later.
Foreplay isn't just what happens in your bed. Foreplay is what happens throughout the day, in simple and profound interactions between you and your husband. In your home. In your community. In your car. In your church.
My great-grandmother Iva MacDonald Deaver wrote in her diary on February 5, 1915, about the love between her and my great-grandfather.
Her words echo wisdom that is as relevant today as it was a hundred years ago:
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