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The eBook is all about nurturing sex in marriage, so you know I am a fan.
Sheila and I are very like-minded on this TRUTH that married couples should be enjoying and speaking positively about SEX.
Can you imagine if she and I and a few of our fellow marriage blogger gals could sit on a beach some day and just come up with idea after idea on how to help marriages sexually?!
Sounds like a dreamy vacation to me.
In the meantime, Sheila has written this fabulous eBook on 31 Days to Great Sex.
It's only $4.99 people. That's like what you would spend on a Venti latte at Starbucks!
I receive $2.50 of each copy sold from this post here, so maybe I'll be buying a cup of coffee or tea for my Beloved -- but, more importantly, the more copies sold, the more marriages nurtured.
Your marriage is worth at least what you spend on a cup of good coffee, right?!
Of course it is! Honestly, even if you don't feel that way right now, the truth is that your marriage is worth investing in.
I asked Sheila to share a little about this book and her passion for the topic. (A bonus for you... You get to hear someone else talk besides me. She's a Christian wife who values sex, so she's a lot like me. Only more published. And doesn't live in Nebraska.)
Simply make a comment on this post about WHY it is so important for Christians to speak in favor of nurtured passionate sexual intimacy in marriage. At 9 p.m. (CST) Saturday, Nov. 24, I will randomly draw a number and whatever comment matches up with that number will be the winner. *** UPDATE *** Winner of the book in the random drawing was commenter #12... Heather Ratliff! Congrats Heather!
Now back to Sheila... here are my questions and her responses:
What would you say to a wife who has the perspective that sex is just for her husband…that it's not really something vital to her as well?
Many, many women feel like that. I know I did when I was first married. Sex was uncomfortable for me, and the more he wanted sex, the more I felt he didn't really care about me or love me.
But I kept seeing and hearing all these women talk about sex as if it were a good thing. And I thought: why is it that they enjoy it and I don't? How come I'm losing out?
And that's what it is. Losing out. God promised us an abundant life, and that includes an abundant marriage in the bedroom. If your husband doesn't have that, you're not just shortchanging him; you're shortchanging yourself.
You were created for pleasure. You have a body part (the clitoris) whose only purpose is to make you feel wonderful! Not even men have that. For them every body part is dual purpose.
And sex wasn't just designed to make you feel physically rapturous; it also makes us feel intimate with our husbands. It makes us feel close. It makes us laugh. It even helps us to sleep better!
So if you're just too exhausted for sex; if you're sick of him pestering you; if you can't figure out what all the fuss is about; take a deep breath and tell yourself: "I may not understand how great sex is right now, but I know that God meant for it to be great. And I'm not going to stop until I figure out how that's actually possible!" Because it is, ladies. Don't lose out on it.
What would surprise my readers about your book 31 Days to Great Sex?
A lot of it doesn't take place in the bedroom! Sure there are quite a few challenges on how to make sex feel great. But when sex has become blah, the answer usually isn't in the bedroom--or in a sex toy shop.
The answer usually comes through more communication, through more emotional vulnerability, even just through more shared laughter! What I keep hearing over and over from readers is, "You finally helped us TALK about all of this stuff!" So yes, there are plenty of steamy days.
But what really helps couples, I think, is the time dedicated to making this area of your life much richer.
If you had one sentence to tell my readers what sex means to a marriage, what would that sentence say?
Billions of people have had sex; I'm not sure how many have actually made love. I hope through this 31 Days to show people how amazing--physically, emotionally, and spiritually--making love can be. (Oops, that's 2!)
Invest in yourself and in your marriage. It's only $4.99. You never know... it could be one of the best investments you've made in your marriage in a long time...
Copyright 2012, Julie Sibert. Intimacy in Marriage Blog.