4 Confessions from a Sex Blogger
Posted on Wednesday, February 22nd, 2012
They may not be "confessions" so much as they are simply a revelation about me as someone who blogs about sexual intimacy in marriage.
If you follow my blog or even if this is your first time here, these are 4 things I really want you to know.
1. I'm a real person.
My house is messy. My marriage isn't perfect. My kids disobey. I have ups. I have downs. I don't always know what I'm fixing for dinner.
My laundry, whether clean or dirty, spends more time in baskets than any place else.
My dog doesn't stay in the fence. My car doesn't always start (although, I do sleep with my mechanic, so car problems rarely plague me for long).
If I had the time, I would blog 2 or 3 times a day about sex, because I have that many ideas rolling around in my head. Seriously.
People say to me, "How do you come up with ideas?" To which I sigh and think to myself, "So many ideas. So little time."
But I don't blog every day because I am more than a sex blogger. My Lord, my husband and my kids get first dibs on me, followed closely by any friend or acquaintance who wants to sit with me and drink coffee.
Or wine. I like wine too.
I absolutely LOVE blogging, but I have to squeeze it in amidst a whole long list of other things vying for my attention.
2. I love hearing from readers.
Please comment on posts and share them. More often than not, dialogue is good and helps us all grow. As Christians, we need to be generating healthy discussion on sexual intimacy.
If you have a question or idea for a post, don't hesitate to email me. Sometimes I reply to emails right away. Other times I take weeks. For reasons behind that, see point #1.
If I don't reply right away, don't take it personally. I'm probably busy trying to figure out which frozen pizza to put in for dinner.
Also, as far as comments, I moderate them, meaning they won't instantly appear. I approve almost all of them, though. I draw the line when people start giving advice that is attacking or is clearly outside the lines of generally accepted Christian values.
You can leave comments anonymously. Even though I ask for a name and email address, you can fill in bogus info if you want.
You don't have to fear leaving your real email address, though, because that doesn't publish (plus, if you leave your real email address, I can ask you a question if there is something I don't understand about your comment).
3. I'm technically inept.
Apparently being adept in one area (sex) doesn't necessarily translate into proficiency in another area (computer skills). Oh well.
I try to make sure my website works and occasionally I'll try some new technical gadget, but for the most part, what you see is what you get.
I might try incorporating more video soon (not that kind of video! Maybe some video of me answering reader questions?! What do you think of that idea?).
I am always open to technical ideas -- if you know of some cool thing I should have on my site, by all means, please tell me. It's unlikely I will discover it all on my own.
I pretty much understand these, although I admit the main page of my Facebook page isn't formatted right. See what I mean?! Oh the irony.
4. I'm not a lone ranger.
Some people think I am a renegade as a Christian wife speaking out so boldly about all things sexual within marriage, but I'm in good company.
If I had more time, I would spend countless hours singing the praises of these fellow Christian bloggers with whom I'm humbly privileged to journey the internet landscape:
Paul and Lori Byerly, who each blog at The Generous Husband and The Generous Wife. Such mentors and forerunners as Christians writing about sex. They aren't afraid to take on tough topics and to be real about their own journey. I appreciate that so much.
Mrs. Hot Holy Humorous, who blogs anonymously Hot, Holy and Humorous. I know her personally and will be the first to vouch that she too is a real person. Such a fabulous writer. I wish I had her skills. I'm always telling her I'm like a grasshopper at her feet.
Brad and Kate Aldrich of One Flesh Marriage. I'm blessed to consider them friends as well and I appreciate the completeness of their blog, with each of them alternating back and forth between the husband's perspective and the wife's perspective.
Stu and Lisa Gray, who have a radio show at One Stupendous Marriage. They have such mad chops for radio... you feel like you are having a conversation with two people who get it. They really have walked hard places in their marriage and have had the courage to speak out of their own story with such boldness and hope.
Dustin Riechmann of Engaged Marriage. As I have often said about this man, he loves his wife, he loves his kids and he loves encouraging people in their marriages. Those are some mighty fine qualities if you ask me.
Tony and Alisa DiLorenzo of One Extraordinary Marriage. They are as real as it gets. Love them and their podcast. Tony and Dustin (Riechmann) also run this cool marriage fitness site called Fit Marriage.
Lori Lowe of Marriage Gems. Lori and I have a lot in common and I am grateful to grace the world of blogging with her. She wrote an amazing book, and the vast majority of her content on her blog is research based. Suffice to say, she knows what she blogs about.
Tom and Debi Walter of The Romantic Vineyard. They do indeed offer a "rich harvest of ideas to help your marriage grow." Tremendously good stuff coming out of this blog.
Sheila Gregoire, who blogs at To Love, Honor and Vacuum. When I grow up, I want to be like Sheila! She's a forerunner also as a Christian wife speaking honestly about sex. She's also coming out with a new book, The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex.
Scott and Jenni Means of Journey to Surrender. Such tender humility and love for the Lord shine through in this blog. Plus, Scott was born in Nebraska, so obviously he is cool. I was born in Nebraska too.
If I could, I would have one big camping trip with all these people. For some reason, I think Tony and Dustin would bring good beer (I could just be imagining this though). And Mrs. Hot Holy Humorous would definitely do all the cooking. Rumor has it she loves cooking.
Want to know more about me? You can find out more here.
Were you hoping for someone a little more polished and together? Sorry to disappoint.
I'm just your average everyday gal who happens to love sex. And loves to talk about it. My friend Brent says that I could turn any conversation into one about sex. I don't know about that. He could be right though.
Copyright 2012, Julie Sibert. Intimacy in Marriage Blog.
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