Intimacy in Marriage

Encouraging Christian Women toward Healthy Sexual Intimacy

Husband’s Porn Addiction: What Are the BEST Resources to Help a Wife Heal?

The other day I received an email from a reader who is trying to break his porn addiction.

As is the case in many marriages, his struggle with looking at porn has had a devastating effect on his wife.

They want their marriage to work, and he is taking the steps to break his addiction and stop the on-slaught of damage to his marriage.

His request, though, was with regard to resources for his wife.

He pointed out something that is often true among resources that tackle porn addiction, especially Christian resources -- with regard to the wounded spouse, such resources can tend to have a high focus on "you have to simply forgive" and "do all you can to be sexually available to your husband."

In and of themselves, these are good and necessary points.  I hear what the husband who wrote to me is saying though.

Some resources over-simplify the depth of a wife's pain.

Please know that I'm not here to knock any resource, because there are many out there that are helping couples heal from this horrendous addiction.

What I am asking, though, of you my readers, is if you can recommend resources that are particularly good at acknowledging the wife's pain.

What resources give validation to her justified anger and hurt, but at the same time encourage her to not get stuck in those places?

If you know of a resource that is very effective in this regard, can you please put it in the comment section?

(I have to approve all comments because I get blasted with so much spam, but I will approve quickly).

If we could come up with at least 10 resources, I think that would be fabulous. If we come up with more, that's even better.  THANK YOU!

Copyright 2012, Julie Sibert. Intimacy in Marriage Blog.

January 19th, 2012 by