Comments on: Sex and the Soul of a Woman http://intimacyinmarriage.com/2010/06/11/sex-and-the-soul-of-a-woman/ Encouraging Christian Women toward Healthy Sexual Intimacy Sun, 05 Feb 2012 05:27:59 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.4 By: landschooner http://intimacyinmarriage.com/2010/06/11/sex-and-the-soul-of-a-woman/comment-page-1/#comment-393 landschooner Wed, 30 Jun 2010 21:17:09 +0000 http://intimacyinmarriage.com/?p=394#comment-393 ************************************* “Having to actually court a woman is something no man should be allowed to miss. Does it strike you what a gift it is to a guy when he has to be the one to pursue you? Men become men by doing battle with their fears, and pursuing a woman well is a process filled with man-sized risks. He must cross the floor to ask you to dance at thirteen. He picks up the phone a few years later, braced for the sound of rejection or reception of your voice. On and on the dance goes until one day he must gather the courage to stake his whole future on asking you to be his wife. At every juncture, a man feels naked and fearfully exposed, braced for the turndown. But that’s the nature of fear; it only subsides when you walk straight into it.” ******************************** Just an additional thought. remember that when married, you have been pursued and ARE already caught. that doesn't mean that a husband shouldn't continue to pursue. He shouldn't take you for granted by any means, but playing "hard to get" is NOT for marriage except perhaps in play. Just as in the blog about Teasing but not following through, if you want to still be pursued, you have to be "catch-able" or you will KILL the romance in your marriage. Men are great conservers of energy by nature. They do NOT chase what they know they cannot catch. Challenge is good. Its exciting. But a wife that proves to be unattainable WILL destroy the romance that she longs for. An unattainable goal is a waste of energy and not worth the time. LS *************************************
“Having to actually court a woman is something no man should be allowed to miss. Does it strike you what a gift it is to a guy when he has to be the one to pursue you? Men become men by doing battle with their fears, and pursuing a woman well is a process filled with man-sized risks. He must cross the floor to ask you to dance at thirteen. He picks up the phone a few years later, braced for the sound of rejection or reception of your voice. On and on the dance goes until one day he must gather the courage to stake his whole future on asking you to be his wife. At every juncture, a man feels naked and fearfully exposed, braced for the turndown. But that’s the nature of fear; it only subsides when you walk straight into it.”
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Just an additional thought. remember that when married, you have been pursued and ARE already caught. that doesn’t mean that a husband shouldn’t continue to pursue. He shouldn’t take you for granted by any means, but playing “hard to get” is NOT for marriage except perhaps in play. Just as in the blog about Teasing but not following through, if you want to still be pursued, you have to be “catch-able” or you will KILL the romance in your marriage. Men are great conservers of energy by nature. They do NOT chase what they know they cannot catch. Challenge is good. Its exciting. But a wife that proves to be unattainable WILL destroy the romance that she longs for. An unattainable goal is a waste of energy and not worth the time.

LS

]]> By: Permission Granted to Enjoy Sex With your Spouse! http://intimacyinmarriage.com/2010/06/11/sex-and-the-soul-of-a-woman/comment-page-1/#comment-339 Permission Granted to Enjoy Sex With your Spouse! Sun, 20 Jun 2010 05:11:49 +0000 http://intimacyinmarriage.com/?p=394#comment-339 [...] Sex and the Soul of a Woman : Intimacy in Marriage’s Julie talks about a book that sounds like a must read for a lot of women. My bride has read half of it, and agrees it’s good – especially for women with promiscuity in their past. [...] [...] Sex and the Soul of a Woman : Intimacy in Marriage’s Julie talks about a book that sounds like a must read for a lot of women. My bride has read half of it, and agrees it’s good – especially for women with promiscuity in their past. [...]

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