Comments on: Five Truths About Sexual Confidence

By: The Proverbs 31 Wife Liked Being On Top in Bed

The Proverbs 31 Wife Liked Being On Top in Bed — Wed, 18 May 2011 21:11:53 +0000

[...] I definitely think the Proverbs 31 Wife liked being on top. And if she were around today, I’d sit with her in her vineyard, talk about marriage and life, and drink good wine. Want to read more about what sexual confidence looks like and how you can learn to be more sexually confident, visit my post here. [...]

By: Ryan

Ryan — Mon, 03 Jan 2011 22:51:37 +0000

Awesome post. Confidence is definitely a learned behavior. Both partners must be on the same page and communicate!

By: Dianna

Dianna — Sun, 04 Jul 2010 23:48:31 +0000

Excellent post, and thanks for the hint to rethink my priorities!

By: JulieSibert

JulieSibert — Sun, 27 Jun 2010 21:31:10 +0000

Thanks “workin’ on it” for the comment… Hmmm… can you be too confident sexually? Not sure, but I lean toward “no.” I think that what you’re really talking about is having sex drives that differ. You feel confident in intiating, which is a good thing! As for whether this is a turn off to your husband, best way to find out is to ask him, emphasizing of course that you really want to have an open honest discussion about it. In other words, you can’t ask him for his opinion and then get completely defensive if indeed he admits this is a turn off. As for his sex drive, I do really encourage that he meet with a doctor. His testosterone could be low, but only way to find out is to test for it. And if this is the case, it’s an easy situation to resolve. What I would really encourage as well is to keep the lines of communication open so that you both feel very comfortable talking about your intimacy, initiating sex, expressing your desires, etc. This is so important (and really is underestimated by a lot of couples, which is why so many couples fall into a pattern of assuming what the other person wants or is thinking). Thanks again for the comment… blessings on your marriage!

By: workin' on it...

workin' on it... — Sun, 27 Jun 2010 01:57:16 +0000

Hey great article, but do you think that you can be too confident? We are young and we’ve only been married for 2 years. I know my husband has a lower drive, but I wonder if I can contribute to that because I am always ready for action. We talked last week and he said he might need to look into some things regarding his drive, but I wonder if women can contribute due to non verbal approach. I dont say anything but I do use lots of language to suggest what I’m in the mood for. Have you ever heard of that being a turn off?

By: Temple

Temple — Sun, 13 Jun 2010 17:46:37 +0000

I disagree that sexual confidence is a learned behavior. I believe it is there, but in lots of women (and some men…my husband included) it has been repressed due to upbringing.

Of course it can be relearned if it has been repressed!

By: Two fingers of pleasure

Two fingers of pleasure — Sun, 13 Jun 2010 05:15:16 +0000

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By: Under Pretties | Daily Generous Wife Tips

Under Pretties | Daily Generous Wife Tips — Sat, 12 Jun 2010 09:32:45 +0000

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By: JulieSibert

JulieSibert — Thu, 10 Jun 2010 19:09:10 +0000

Thanks Paul! You are right… sexual confidence is a learned behavior! Thanks for the comment!

By: Paul Byerly

Paul Byerly — Thu, 10 Jun 2010 19:06:51 +0000

Sexual confidence is a learned behavior
Sexual confidence is a learned behavior
Sexual confidence is a learned behavior
Sexual confidence is a learned behavior

It was all good, but this is worth repeating, and repeating, and repeating. Any woman can learn to be amazing in bed, if she is willing to work at learning.

Paul

Sexual confidence is a learned behavior
Sexual confidence is a learned behavior
Sexual confidence is a learned behavior