Intimacy in Marriage

Encouraging Christian Women toward Healthy Sexual Intimacy

It’s Reigning. It’s Pooring.

God wants you and your husband having great sex. Satan, on the other hand, hates it when married couples have sex, let alone enjoy it.  Why?  Because both Satan and God know this truth:  Sex is incredibly powerful, designed to usher married couples into profound oneness.  I have heard sex referred to as "spiritual glue," and I think no description is more accurate.

Where oneness prevails, arrows of destruction will fail. Sounds kind of cliche, but it's so true.  I know that when I start to recognize even a hint of discord in my marriage, one of the best things we can do is make love.  Resolving the issue is needed too, but after all that tenderness, sometimes the issue becomes less relevant. Not always, but sometimes.

So as a fellow Christian wife, I am asking you to discern who is reigning in your sexuality -- God or Satan?  If it is Satan, in what ways has he made your sexual relationship "poor?"

Hear me out on this one... I'm not overlooking personal accountability by you or your husband in your sexuality, because obviously we must deliberately walk in the direction of health for there to actually be health. I am simply shedding light on some often-overlooked darkness.  There is a spiritual battle being waged for your sexual intimacy.

And Satan  is crafty... he knows that if he can cause division between you and your husband sexually, he is well on his way to winning the war.  He is well on his way to making not just your sex life poor, but your entire relationship poor.

God is not oblivious to this spiritual dynamic. He's right there too, with His Word and Holy Spirit, clearly calling us to pay close attention to the details that matter most.  Here's my paraphrase of what He says about your physical intimacy with your husband: "Protect it. Nurture it with abandon. Enjoy it. Remain in it. See it as a gift. Allow me to heal where there has been pain. Seek me. Trust me. Love well."

So take note friends.  Hear my humble heart.  Be careful that you are not sacrificing your sexual intimacy on worldly altars.  Be deliberately aware that one of the very best things you can do to protect your marriage and make it stronger is to nurture and enjoy sex often with your husband.

Who is reigning in your sexual intimacy? Is your relationship rich or poor?  Today is as good a day as any to start replacing unhealthy patterns with healthy ones.   Already in a healthy place, you say?  Then now is as good a day as any to encourage women around you by your positive dialogue about sex.  Will you be a fellow "light shedder" with me?

Be blessed.

April 17th, 2010 by