Comments on: It Isn’t a “Magical” Ring. Surprised? http://intimacyinmarriage.com/2010/02/17/it-wasnt-a-magical-ring-surprised/ Encouraging Christian Women toward Healthy Sexual Intimacy Sun, 05 Feb 2012 05:27:59 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.4 By: landschooner http://intimacyinmarriage.com/2010/02/17/it-wasnt-a-magical-ring-surprised/comment-page-1/#comment-32 landschooner Wed, 24 Mar 2010 20:49:11 +0000 http://intimacyinmarriage.com/?p=131#comment-32 Quote from my wife 17 years ago speaking of the discrepancy in our desire levels. "This is the one area I never thought we'd have problems in..." I think she thought she was going to be a passionate wife. She was certainly very amorous when dating. (we were virgins when we married but we pushed the envelope more than we should have....and she did the pushing.) Regular ordinary life has a way sapping the libido right out of some people. Even pre-kids - newlywed - and - NO responsibilities type life. I was very romantic for many years, but I can't make life go away. Quote from my wife 17 years ago speaking of the discrepancy in our desire levels. “This is the one area I never thought we’d have problems in…” I think she thought she was going to be a passionate wife. She was certainly very amorous when dating. (we were virgins when we married but we pushed the envelope more than we should have….and she did the pushing.) Regular ordinary life has a way sapping the libido right out of some people. Even pre-kids – newlywed – and – NO responsibilities type life. I was very romantic for many years, but I can’t make life go away.

]]> By: admin http://intimacyinmarriage.com/2010/02/17/it-wasnt-a-magical-ring-surprised/comment-page-1/#comment-13 admin Mon, 15 Mar 2010 12:51:54 +0000 http://intimacyinmarriage.com/?p=131#comment-13 Couldn't agree with you more Mrs. Embers! I am currently teaching a Bible study I wrote on sexual intimacy in marriage... the women and I have spent much time talking about exactly what you wrote... connecting well sexually does better equip a couple to navigate everything else together. Be encouraged. At least you are working on it. Many couples, sadly, never even recognize it on the radar. Thanks for the comment! Couldn’t agree with you more Mrs. Embers! I am currently teaching a Bible study I wrote on sexual intimacy in marriage… the women and I have spent much time talking about exactly what you wrote… connecting well sexually does better equip a couple to navigate everything else together. Be encouraged. At least you are working on it. Many couples, sadly, never even recognize it on the radar. Thanks for the comment!

]]> By: Mrs Embers http://intimacyinmarriage.com/2010/02/17/it-wasnt-a-magical-ring-surprised/comment-page-1/#comment-11 Mrs Embers Thu, 11 Mar 2010 17:07:02 +0000 http://intimacyinmarriage.com/?p=131#comment-11 Surprised? Not completely- we knew it wouldn't always be easy. I'd say the biggest surprise was how important sexual intimacy was not just in itself, but how much it affected our whole marriage. We had some rough times in that one area and it just made everything else we were facing that much harder to deal with. Now that we're connecting more on that level (7 years later), we feel more equipped to face the rest of life as a team. It was a hard lesson to learn, and we're still working on it. Surprised? Not completely- we knew it wouldn’t always be easy.

I’d say the biggest surprise was how important sexual intimacy was not just in itself, but how much it affected our whole marriage. We had some rough times in that one area and it just made everything else we were facing that much harder to deal with. Now that we’re connecting more on that level (7 years later), we feel more equipped to face the rest of life as a team. It was a hard lesson to learn, and we’re still working on it.

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